there are benefits of living alone, but i get lonely a lot.
i have a friend or two that i visit every month or two. one friend that calls sometimes to talk. a couple that i text with. i dont visit with family much cause of the pandemic. this is the extent of my social life.
i’d probably do better if i had more friends. maybe i should have made the thread, “how do you make new friends in middle age?” “how do you get a partner when u r mentally ill and middle aged?”
Have you tried nolongerlonely.com for people with mental health problems
You seem to have a few friends so be great full for that
If you want to be less lonely get out and about
When virus gone ill be attending knitting classes
Going out means your not stuck alone in your house and you start meeting people
if youre looking for friends or social contact, have you ever thought of joining a mental health club…these are places where mentally ill folk can go to participate in art, creative writing, health management or group therapy to name but a few activities or else you can just drop in for a coffee…
once lockdown ends, these places will reopen so look in to it
I know how you feel, I also am middle aged and I live alone. I haven’t always lived alone at one time I had a wife and 4 young kids but now I’m divorced and my kids are all grown up. I struggle with lonelyness and find my self getting into my head alot.
46 Years old here - And often dont see anyone for days. Im always welcome at the neighbours for a cup of tea, but with covid, ive stopped that, and dont want to annoy them every five minutes.
I just sleep alot - and have an interest in computers (tho not very good) so that keeps me occupied most of the time. Im not always great with the public anyway at times - so im usually sat in front of a screen 12-15 hours a day.
Not easy living alone - but ive learnt to live with it. And im actually quite comfortable in my “man-cave” living and sleeping in 1 large room - so its not too bad.
Maybe get a dog or cat. 
When I was living alone, I would connect with people online. I mainly did it through video games w/ voice chat. I made one of my best friends I’ve ever had that way.
There’s plenty of communities you can get involved in (text or voice chat based). Discord is a pretty useful program for that chatting.
Make the most of being alone
Stay up late at the weekend with a few treats and some good film or tv
Light a candle and enjoy yourself
Having a pet would be pretty cool.
By using this forum.
This is already better than many of us here. I never hangout with friends since having severe negative symptoms.
I live with my parents, can’t live on my own. My parents don’t like when I talk with them really as I have nothing to talk about other than my needs like money, food, etc I hate when they talk about life as I don’t really have one now since getting negative symptoms. 80-90% of the time I am in my room or bed.
By filling your day with things you enjoy. Walking, eating, bathing, grooming, poker, youtube. I do these hobbies if I have a girlfriend or not. Fill your day with things that bring you joy
I’m forced to be alone, pretty much because stalkers lie about me all the time. They want me to be persecuted and alone. I’m probably the most celibate person they ever heard of, and they tell lies all the time.
i’m glad i don’t get lonely too much. i live with my parents and rarely see people outside of that household. Sometimes mobile team girl comes to get me out for a walk but she is preggers now and i think i won’t see her a lot for a while as she been sick cause of the pregnancy.
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