I took myself out of the social scene a long time ago and after 4 months of working at a company, i have built some confidence that I want to use to make friends. It’s been a long time since my mindset wasn’t “block everyone out” at all times, so it’ll feel strange at first to actually want to make friends. I forgot what friends are and how they treat each other. I had lots of friends growing up but as a young adult mostly I’ve secluded myself. It’s got to stop. The loneliness kills me.
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Im no expert. At all. But if I remember correctly, it starts with small chat. You have to build the relationship to the point you can call it a friendship. This is easier with some people more than others and in different areas it can be easier than others.
I just moved to the east coast and i havent had friends in forever, but i find people are friendly and im slowly meeting people and building relationships as i go.
Its really quite simple, dont over think it. If youre friendly to people and slowly make “advances” to build the relationship youll make friends. Its not instant though.
Good luck and nice work making the healthy decision to make some buds. 
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I haven’t had a lot of good friends but it usually happens naturally or even accidentally. Don’t overthink it.
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Maybe you find someone who likes the same kind of music as you, and when a good band comes around, invite them to come to the concert with you.
Idk, just an idea.
I started hanging with the guy who is now my best bud because a mutual friend told him about the concert I was taking her to, and he wanted to come along with us. Incidentally, it was a Mushroomhead show, the first of many.
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Maybe participate in some activities? Usually, I make more friends through mutual friends.
I recently moved away from a senior retirement community and had a lot of friends there. I no longer have a car and I don’t drive so, I cannot visit this retirement community to see old friends. They are gone for good. I have to make new friends in the new apartment complex where I now live. That’s going to be hard for me as I rarely leave my apartment.
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You could try attending meet ups. I was going to attend a coding meet up soon to meet coders
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Just spend some time on here to start! Since I started coming on here ive noticed that I’m naturally a bit more talkative and friendly without even noticing it. It’s a step in right direction. Also if just going out and random striking up a conversation gives you a a heart attack (who can relate? XD ) it’s probably because you feel you don’t know what to say! Simple solution: meet new people you already have things in common with. Here for example you can strike up a conversation because we all have mental health knowledge and seek it so it makes it easy. What do you enjoy doing and know a lot about (the answer is probably more obvious than you think) ? Music? Health? Philosophy? Science? Body building? Religion? Just join a bunch of forums if simply going to a pub is too much at the moment. Your probably just an introvert which is a great thing!
Start with what is easy, then the difficult will become easy.
So what is it you’re interested in anyway?
It’s hard to build up friendships.
5 days after getting a new friend I started believing he was an axe murderer. It’s difficult when u believe such nonsense .
Yet I still believe it ffs.
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Have you thought of joining clubs? I belong to a photography club and an archery club. I also play Cribbage with local seniors at least every couple of weeks. It really helps get me out of the house.
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