I feel so low about my self and my academic achievements. I feel like an idiot. I want to go back and get my maths and english but what is the point when i might only achieve 1 or 2 points higher then i was in school ( if im lucky) i might not even acheive that now i have mental health too im severely dyslexic and always was.
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With sz sometimes you have to sacrifice things in life.
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I guess so i cant stop feeling like a failure
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If you donāt compare yourself with others, you will be what you are.
It is the comparison that makes you feel bad.
Just be who you are and love yourself for that.
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I dont know how to stop i have done it all my life from being the lowest of the low in everything
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We all have done it.
At school it is a prerequisite of everything. Indoctrinated comparison and competition.
Watch it. Realise it and let it go.
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I guess so. Imln school despite not being academic i had alot of dreams and now they have come to nothing
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There is no guessing about it. That is the way society is built.
You donāt have to compare yourself internally though. You can become aware of when you are doing it. Watch it inside yourself. Realise that that is what you are doing. Relax upon that knowledge. It will then dissipate.
That is all you need to do.
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I was going to type basically the same as what labratmat posted here. But in addition to that :
You seem to have a skewed negative view on everything. You say you are the lowest of the low in everything. Yet here you are , a schizophrenic able to post coherently on a support forum. SOme arenāt so fortunate. You used to say how hideous you were. I saw the pic you posted. That was not true at all. You seem to let every little thing beat you down. Thatās something I think you need to work on. No ones perfect. Searching for every little flaw and multiplying it 100 fold is not going to serve you well.
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I dont know how. My father is the same and i have to live with him. I cant stand living with him because he puts me down and makes me feel bad about myself. My mother is also the same points out every flaw
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I typed this into Bing AI:
i know someone whose self esteem is schockingly low how can i give them a method to improve it?
It replied:
Here are some methods that might help someone improve their self-esteem:
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Identify and Challenge Negative Beliefs: Encourage them to identify the negative beliefs they have about themselves, then challenge them1. They can start noting these negative thoughts and write them on a piece of paper or in a diary1.
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Positive Affirmations: Encourage the use of positive affirmations. They can repeat phrases to themselves that they wish they believed about themselves2.
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Mindfulness: Encourage them to be mindful of their negative self-talk2. By simply becoming aware of our negative self-talk, we begin to distance ourselves from the feelings it brings up2.
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Build Positive Relationships: If certain people tend to bring them down, encourage them to spend less time with them1.
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Practice Self-Care: Encourage them to take care of their physical health as it can often impact mental health3. -
Gratitude: Encourage them to practice gratitude. This can help shift focus from what they feel they lack, to appreciating what they have3.
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Recognize Strengths: Help them recognize what theyāre good at1. Weāre all good at something, whether itās cooking, singing, doing puzzles or being a friend1.
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Seek Professional Help: If their self-esteem is severely impacting their mental health, it might be helpful for them to seek professional help such as a therapist or counselor4.
Remember, improving self-esteem is a process and it takes time. Itās important that they donāt rush themselves and try to be patient with their progress1.
Why not take a look at these points @anon15119022 ?
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Its my parents that make me feel like this. They always put me down and never give me time to say anything. Im always the bad one in there eyes because of my mental illness and because i havent moved out. My mum puts me down for being with someone who is much older then me and i feel constricted by them
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It is time for you to get to know yourself.
You realise the stem of what causes you to feel like this. You need to identify all of these things. Write them down in a journal. Study yourself.
It is only by becoming aware of your triggers, and why you respond in certain ways that you can begin to change how you respond in future.
Perhaps you need a professional or a counsellor to help you deal with these things.
Read the post above and take the steps. You can grow, donāt worry. It can all change for you.
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Its a hard thing to accept but you kind of have to find a middle ground. I had to find an easier job for my mental health sake. My ego wants me to go full send and build a company but when it comes down to getting to it, its not easy at all.
And for others just functioning at home is hard enough. We all have different lanes
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Yeah theres a thing called unfair comparison. Like if I was to compare myself to some famous actor or philanthropist or artist or whatever thats gonna make me feel bad about myself as I didnt āacheiveā this or that.
So i dont compare myself to anyone. I just do what i feel is best for me.
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Ive also met various high acheivers and they almost treat relaxing like its a bad thing lol. They always gotta be doing something and theres always a sense of urgency.
Sometimes i wish i had a sense of urgency but i dont lol
I think personality type can be at play as well. Like im probably a type B personality opposed to type A
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Write down why you are proud of you. It might help you feel better about yourself.
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Go easy on yourself @anon15119022 , you donāt deserve any self-dissing. Most ānormiesā arenāt high achievers and most of them struggle with the competition of life. We live with schizophrenia. We are neurodiverse. We are just wired differently. All of us are on path to recovery. Some of us are farther along than others. Recovery just takes time. That being said it starts with self acceptance that is without blame and without guilt. Living with schizophrenia is not our fault. It is a circumstance of life. The best of everything to you today and in the future.
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Sounds like your parents have an insight deficiency. Perhaps they need to spend a little time learning about what it is like to live with schizophrenia. Just sayingā¦
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Baby steps my friend. Living with schizophrenia is tough sometimes. Just getting out of bed can be a big chore. When you get something done you are pleased about, give yourslef a small reward.
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