I have sometimes abuse from my father,he doesn’t like to be called and asked for health or anything.My mother died bc of cancer,and I was with her all the time until the end.Now it’s very hard for me,for some time after she died I felt her spirit was all around the house,but now keep forgetting things about her.I don’t do it well.I still need her.
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I’m sorry @anon70049667.
I really am…
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Thanks buddy…
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Sorry to read about your loss and that your father is not happy when you call can feel like a loss too and make one sad.
Do you have other positive things n people to help you by?
This forum can be helpful.
When my mom died from cancer in 2006 I fell apart, nearly dropped out of school, too. I’m thankful that I had my then-gf (now ex-wife) to lean on.
When my dad died from a heart attack in 2013, I was able to handle it better. I sometimes feel guilty that I never cried over his death. He wasn’t an a-hole or anything like that; I don’t know why I wasn’t really broken up over it when he passed.
I sobbed and sobbed like crazy the night my mom died.
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We lost my mother just over a month ago. It’s just now dad and I and it’s been a challenge. We are doing ok though. I cook and he’ll clean. I do laundry when I get up and dad does some cleaning through the week. It’s hard because before she went downhill mum did everything! You really appreciate what she did over the years!
My mother refused to send me to hospital even though I went to emergency twice whilst heavily psychotic. She took care of me at home with a full house! Great lady and you miss that everyday but you’ve got to keep moving forward. You never lose that joy they’ve given you! You don’t forget all the great things they did or didn’t do for you!
Much peace!
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my mom has been sick since i was little and i’ve always felt like it would suddenly happen any day. i have not the best relationship with her, but i love her. she gets progressively worse every year and the rest of my family has given up on trying to get her to stop doing things that are bad for her (she has copd and she’s a smoker and all that)
i know that ever since i was little when people i knew died (or when babies were born into the family even) it just terrified me because it reminded me that she was sick and probably didn’t have as much time as i’d hope. even in my psych evaluation when she was interviewed as part of it since i was a minor at the time she said she wanted help for me as soon as possible because she “wasn’t going to be around forever”
i don’t have a relationship with my dad, but hes not doing so good either. all of my grandparents have passed away and i never had much of a relationship with them. there’s been a lot of deaths in my family + close relations but not so close that i’ve ever personally fully grieved over someone. i’m not sure what i’ll do about my mom, but i know i’m constantly terrified right now
Do you feel you have a support network?
You have this forum and us.
But do you have family,friends…?
Do you live independently?
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i started living with my sisters because my mom wasn’t feeling well enough to have me at home. i have a girlfriend and really great friends
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Public grief, private relief.
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In my family we always looked at death as inevitable, and there was nothing to fear about it as long as the person lead a good life. I’m afraid the end was bad for both my mother and my father, though. They both died of brain diseases with symptoms like Alzheimer’s, but the action in the brain was different. They were both disenchanted with life. However, I have forgiven any grievances, real or imagined, against my parents. But I was wondering how close the end was for me a while ago, and it seemed kind of bitter for me to think about leaving life on the terms I am on with it now. I’ve done very little with my life, practically nothing.
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Now a days I try to be grateful they were alive as well as sad that they’re dead. I am only 21.
My dad died when I was 5 and my mom died when I was 19
That’s just terrible. I’m sorry 
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Im sorry for your losses guys.
I would be a wreck without my mom.
I just dont know what i would do if i lost her
Thanks. I’m grateful that they were ever alive.
I didn’t cope well my mother dying
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I lost my step dad, Joe a few years ago to liver disease. He was like my real dad and I even called him dad. My real dad raped and beat me. Joe got me the help I needed. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss Joe. I miss him every day a night. I didn’t know how to cope but my mom helped me. She gave me his memory photo book that I can look at. She also gave me his robe that I wear to bed every night and his favorite sweater that I wear all the time. This helps me so much cause it makes me feel like he is right next to me.
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I really want a Guinea pig but I lack the responsibility skills for it
My step brother was dating a girl who had a son. We all adopted him. He called my dad Pawpaw.
I think my cat misses my mom too