Does anybody else struggle with the thought of losing their parents? I don’t know what my life will look like without them.
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Yeah, but it is inevitable. I’ll have to cross that bridge someday. Unfortunate part of life.
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I only have left my dad, and he is very old.
Sometimes you wake up thinking they are alive.
I’ll probably pass before them.
I’m pretty close to my mom, she’s 55 and has no mental illnesses. She has a bladder issue she’s on disability for but she also works acting jobs to supplement it. I’m not worried about losing her any time soon, won’t start worrying until her 70’s probably.
I’d hate to lose her or have her get ill with Alzheimer’s or something like that.
My stepdad is also young, I’m not as close to him, and I’ve never met my biological dad. I’m guessing his side of the family is where the schizophrenia comes from.
Yes.i don’t know how I will go without them.
My mum is in Sweden and my father interstate.
My father and I only have contact a few times a year probably and he has always hated me 
(I believe he loves me aswell reluctantly a little).
My mum hated me too and said I ruined her life and tried to kill me once but I’m closer to her than I am my father and she loves me much much more than my father does(even though she still has hate for me it’s less than it used to be).
My stepmom I had might love me more than my parents .
Definitely more than my father but maybe more than my mum too as my mum still has all that hatred etc for me.
She is not with my father anymore but she is the mother of my brother and sister.
I am living with her now cause I can’t afford rent she let me live with her.
My father would not let me live with him specially not for free.
She is so understanding and kind.
My parents hate that I am not educated and that I don’t work etc but she loves me as I am and is proud of the things I do do .
My brothers and sister are not understanding of me and seem to want power of me and want me to salute them or something despite me being the eldest but it’s not my belief to salute.
My stepmom is the one person that is this way with me and I need that.
She showed me how to drive to new places .she encourages me and she also supports/helps me financially .
My mum recently sent me socks and lollies from Sweden.
I was really happy for this and wear the socks every day and night and sleep with them on.
My relationship with my parents is complicated also because of this hate they have had and still have for me.
They do not understand me and they do not understand how difficult “simple” things can be for me so they are not proud of me but disappointed .
My parents hurt me a lot and still do.
I’m not playing victim.i just finished reading you can heal your life and like to believe I forgive them and understand them but how do you stop current behaviour…I’m trying by saying I love 
myself daily which I really do.
I am dependent on my parents.
I am more dependent on my former stepmom who I am currently living with.
I am dependent in help with beauracracy that I don’t understand I am dependent financially I am dependent on transportation and help getting places I am dependent in many ways.
I love them so so so much.
My relationship with my parents is complicated.
I love them but they are not easy going people and they have had a lot of hate for me and still do but there’s love there too.
I don’t know how I will cope if they die before me.
My sacred neigh and former stepmom are so close to me I don’t know how I will cope without them if they go before me.
My former stepmom said we should adopt a dog for me in the future because I said my sacred neigh might be the platonic love of my life and I don’t know how I could cope if she does before me.
But my grandma and dog died and other loved ones too.
I don’t have friends in person to support me.
I was a bad friend.
I improve.
I’m better now.
My brothers and sister will probably not support me much because there love of power is greater than the power of there love for me and they hate me too.they might have a touch of love for me but not much.
My brother pays me $30 a week to walk his dogs and I walk them three times a week for 45 minutes.the job he gave me really helps me and I appreciate it so I guess he might support me somehow and even help me with confusing beauracracy.
I spend the most time with my sacred neigh and former stepmom and maybe they understand me more and love me more.
My parents seem to keep a distance.
I email my mum but she keeps me at a distance somehow.
I am so happy and grateful my parents are still alive and I hope they will be really old and my sacred neigh and former stepmom too.
I dare not say how close my former stepmom is but she is close and so good n great to and for me.
I hope I enrichen her life too.
I think I would ask my other family brother or so for help with beauracracy etc I have difficulties with it.
I don’t understand insurance etc
How does one cope without ones parents…
My father is the happiest he has ever been despite that his mother is dead.
He has a wife he adores and has won championships in sports and won many medals, he has retired and travels and has friends.
It may be more difficult for those who do not have a support network or who do not have anyone else.
Maybe those people should get a pet and get government and community help and support or even living.
I don’t know if I will live independently if they die before me.
Hopefully I will not need supported living or live in a group home but I guess it’s good to know it’s there if needed.
Such a loss.
Such a thing can be overwhelming.
Do you believe in life after death?
My parents were atheists.
My mum hates religion but believes in the universe and in higher consciousness.
My dad believes in reincarnation in his old age.
I am not a member of any religion.
My sacred neigh and former stepmom were a touch Christian but not religious I think.
I like to think we will be with our loved ones in love and peace after death and that death does us not part but I don’t want to believe in Hell because my god would not be so cruel.
I don’t have a religion I believe in but hope to believe in my own way.
Hopefully death do us not part.
Forever together in love.
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My parents are getting older. Dad is 74 and has been in the hospital a few times in the last few years. He can’t work anymore really and doesn’t get much in Social Security. My Mom is 70 and she still works full time and is in good health.
I lost my last living grandfather last year. He was 86 (Dads Dad) and had cancer. Lost my last living grandmother a couple years ago and she was 93. Moms mom.
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My life without my parents is just fine.
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Never had a father and losing my mother was a relief. Maybe not a horrible person in the grand scheme of things, but certainly not a good parent…
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I so fine, my mom died in 2010 and my stepdad in 2018. I didn’t even know he died until a few months ago. i didn’t ever need them so I am good now too.
Both my parents are well into their 80s.
I am trying to prepare myself but it’s difficult.
My parents divorced at a young age and eventually my father killed himself.
My mother hasn’t really been there much and I’m having to learn everything the hard way.
At some point you have no choice but to embrace the uncertainty of life.
It’s really uncomfortable. Probably depends on how much you’ve learned self-sufficiency and how easily you can get back into life after hardships.
Need a good sense of trust and self-trust.
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Yeah I am in the same. My dad is getting very old now and he will go first. I just can’t see my life without him. My life is lonely enough at it is.
I’m not worried about it like I used . I know when that day comes, I’ll be in mourning and I’m going to let out my grief. I’m not going to hold it in. So I can move forward after it’s passed.
Sometimes I wish my parents would die so I could commit suicide without ruining anyone’s day. I used to be very dependent on my parents for almost everything…then I packed up, drove 5000 miles to Alaska, and had to learn really quickly how to do for myself. We actually get on better now with the physical distance between us.
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Hi. I think about that alot. But I pray that God would grant my mom and dad many more years to come.
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My parents are 88 and 85. I really want to die before them. I don’t know how I’ll do without them. I love them so much. So do my kiddos.
Don’t really struggle with this right now. My Dad is 55yo and my mom 53. But I also know that one day they won’t be here anymore. So I am trying to prepare for that now. They have really sacrificed a lot for my sister and I. Now I need to do my part.
‘God bless the child that has its own.’
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