I haven’t showered in a week. Just can’t make myself.
I’m missing out on life stuff because can’t go out in public like this. But can’t get myself to shower. Help!! What’s wrong with me?
My therapist says: “Just shower. It’s something everyone doesn’t like but just does.” Not helpful. For me it runs deeper, as in schiz negative symptoms or deeper. It’s gotta be something because this isn’t normal. Do non MI people not shower for a week?
Self care is something that many schizophrenics struggle with. Mine is shaving. I have a hell of a time getting myself to do it enough. So I end up with a beard that is too long to just shave. I have to trim first.
Put your phone on the back of the toilet with a video playing really loud that you don’t really need to look at, but can listen to while showering… like a podcast or something. That makes it more interesting.
Some things that have helped me or my kids with showering, that aren’t “just do it.”
buy baby wipes and dry shampoo spray for days when the shower is too horrible, but you still need to look clean enough to go in public.
make a playlist of songs you ONLY play in the shower. Play it before forcing yourself to shower every time. It will create a link in your brain between the songs and showering, so eventually when you play the playlist you’ll feel like it’s shower time, and just start doing it.
Lower the goal: Don’t commit to an entire shower. Just commit to a small, easy thing. Maybe it’s standing under the water for 30 seconds. Maybe it’s just washing one or two things. Maybe it’s just standing in the bathroom while the water runs. Often, once you start with that tiny goal, the rest will seem easier, and you’ll keep going.
get a different shower head if you can. The handheld ones or rainfall ones are less of an issue for some people.
Some of these might help you, too. Some might not. But there are options beyond “just do it.”
I think it’s off putting that schizophrenia will drive you to the point of wanting to end your life, the worse thing possible, and people muster up the courage to almost do it, but a shower, well that’s to much. It always struck me as odd for a human behavior.
It probably wouldnt be so difficult for many if you could just hop in. You have to get undressed and dressed also. As you get older and fatter this can really be a pain. I mean putting my socks on sometimes feels like I’m pushing a boulder up a hill .
It does run deeper. Before Schizophrenia, I loved taking showers for some reason - but now I’m aversive to water on my skin and mentally get a block. Don’t let it stop you though, in order to function in society, you must always be presentable and that’s only fair/well mannered to do so - make that your reason to shower. The sake of others !
I usually only wash my hair, armpits and private parts when showering. Makes it a lot easier. At least the rest of the body gets rinsed and dried off after.
Im glad i dont have showering difficulties. I love them. Usually twice a day. Some days I feel undeserving of it though. As in I think im very lucky to be able to have running hot water available in my home at all times. It feels like a privilege to me.
Maybe getting wet wipes can help. Back when I wasn’t doing so good I rarely showered and my mom got me wet wipes. They’re really handy in between showers.