Debby my friend who just lost her dear ex husband wanted me to sing for her art show she’s throwing for Randy…I apologized and said I would fear it would bring back my anxiety and declined. She still has a bunch of singers and guitarists and such to play for her party so I don’t feel SO bad. I kind of wish I could do it though…I love playing for people but this is a crowd of over 200 people and I fear I would freeze.
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Hey, you have to do what’s best for you 
It’s nice that you want to help your friend, but there’s no use in putting yourself in the risk of failure.
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Don’t beat yourself up, most people especially on the mental illness spectrum, wouldn’t be able to play in front of that many people. At this point I know I wouldnt
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I think you did the right thing jukebox.
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I also think you did the right thing, @jukebox. Maybe you could dedicate a song to him among a small group after the funeral.
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In your place I think I would do the same thing.
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I think if you wanted to honor Randy but were afraid to play in front of people,
Maybe you could record something?
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@jukebox, if you really want to participate in your friends ceremony, you could always ask one of the other people singing if you feel comfortable enough joining them in singing one song should your stage fright dissapear once you feel comfortable enoigh amongst the crowd?
This way you don’t have to be so anxious about singing solo, and you’d still have the opportunity to participate should you feel good enough to perform.
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thank you everyone… @Csummers I asked Debby if I could just come to their house and play for them sometime…she said “great !” so that’s what I’m going to do later.
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I know I couldn’t perform in front of 200 people. You were right to do what is right for you.
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