So today started off well. I’m feeling better after my trip to the emergency room, I had my next checkup moved up to today so my doctor could check on the baby. Fiancé came with me, we were having a good time. We even got to hear the baby’s heartbeat. We got home and we were super happy and I wanted to have sex with him and he said he wasn’t in the mood. Well this pretty quickly escalated into us screaming at each other because he hasn’t “been in the mood” hardly at all since I got pregnant. I told him I feel like he doesn’t think I’m pretty because he never tells me I am and he won’t sleep with me. He told me he tells me I’m pretty all the time and that he takes care of me no matter what I want and that we get intimate every couple weeks. I said that’s hardly at all for a couple of 21 year olds, and long story short he told me to go see my therapist because lately I’ve been “making up problems in our relationship” and I don’t know what he’s talking about. Do you guys think I’m just delusional or do I have a reason to be upset? Either way I feel bad for pissing him off on a day that started out so happy. But if I’m having delusions I need to get started on fixing that. If I am having delusions I think it may be triggered by the clowns setting off my first delusion and then my brain is running away with the delusional train of thought. Ughhhh why must this illness complicate everything 
You’re pregnant, you’re hormonal. Doesn’t sound like sz delusions to me, but we don’t know the details.
Talking to your therapist about it doesn’t seem like a bad idea, might help you keep your mind at ease.
Thanks, I’ll talk to her. At the very least if it’s just my hormones making me nuts she can tell me not to worry about it. And my fiancé is right. He does a lot for me. I haven’t really done anything to thank him for how helpful he’s been. I kinda feel like an ■■■■■■■ for yelling at him
A gal I talk to everyday complained about the same thing the other day, Her BF seemed to prefer to look after himself, she thought it was odd since he could have all he wanted. She did not take it personally though. Someone on here I think had the same complaint I think.
But everyone is different, one gal said it best when she said He may not give me everything I want, but I know he loves me by all the time he spends doing other things for me.
How many weeks/months pregnant are you again. ??? Just curious. Like 3 months???
Yeah 12 weeks so 3 months. I think minnii is right, I’m probably just being hormonal rather than having SZ symptoms flare up
I think I just got frustrated and over reacted because I don’t exactly feel attractive right now so I think I just made up a problem that didn’t exist and yelled at him because I feel insecure for no reason
Show your boyfriend appreciation for the things he does for you, but be assertive, and try to get him to be more responsive when it comes to sex. Don’t be shrewish, but let him know that you have needs that he is neglecting.
Being pregnant was a beautiful experience for me, but not for everyone around me. I think because our minds are already set at a different level, so to speak, that hormonal changes etc make an even bigger difference for us. I’m on a birth control pill that has me cycle once every 2-3 months. It’s awesome to not have it every month, but when it’s time I should just tell my husband to run and hide! I’m horrible and my symptoms are magnified…
Talking to your therapist is always a good idea. Just go easy on yourself though, and on your fiancé too. Having a baby is a really big deal for both of you. Expectations about a lot of things seem to come out of nowhere.
Congrats on the heartbeat! Sounds like a washing machine, huh! 
You’re right. Friday is his day off so I think I’ll turn off his alarm, let him sleep in and I’ll make him breakfast and clean the apartment and go out and buy him a new video game. I think he’d really appreciate that.
Thank you! It does sound like a washing machine! 
and yeah so far it’s been a mixed experience for me. I’m happy we’re having a kid but I don’t like what it’s doing to my body. I’ve always been concerned that it’s gonna make my SZ worse, and my delusions have been flaring up ever since those people in clown masks started rubbing around so I wanted to get some opinions on whether or not I’m having delusions. I don’t want to subject my fiancé to anything more than I have to. He’s probably almost as tired as I am right now, he just won’t admit it because he wants to be there for me. But last night when he said he thinks I’m delusional I realized I needed to do something about it. Even if it’s not actual delusions, I still gotta not be such a jerk to him
So I just went through something similar if you recall with the groping and grabbiness.
Its all about communication.
My therapist said the way my bf and your bf are reacting are “typical” guy reactions with him thinking that he tells you all the time that you are pretty. He is fine with sex every so often. But with your changing hormones you need it more often. You need to communicate this to him. If he is open to it he will respond, otherwise the two of you can come up with other ways to give you pleasure and maybe then in the process he might get interested more in sex. You also need to tell him its not appropriate for him to tell you “you are making things up,” that’s the way you feel and see things happening from your perspective. Its just different from his. Use “I” statements.
Its all about communication.
I think your fiancee’ is being a jerk.
Also, just wanted to ask, are you taking all your meds? or have you had a change in your med regime due to being pregnant? That may have changed your brain chemistry a bit and set off your moods, if indeed that is the case. But to me it sounds like you have legitimate concerns.
Men , most men, are not comfortable having sex with a baby on board. Variety of ‘boner killer’ reasons, especially in the later trimesters.
Your body’s really busy right now doing something amazing, so please also cut yourself some slack. Do you have the book “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”? It’s really great.
I also recommend natural childbirth. It’s the most empowering thing I’ve ever done. I did the Bradley Method. Some of the books I read for that I believe have helped me just in general too.
Get your fiancé a treat or something that he really likes. There are things to worry about under any circumstance when a baby’s on the way, so try to focus on the celebration. 
Man, I was a mess during my pregnancy. I went stable only in the last trimester.
So, it could be a bad marriage of two things: your hormones and what @NiceHat said, his subconscious fear that he might ‘hurt’ the baby and just the general thought of it being in there. It happens…also, you should talk to your gynecologist but if you are having for any reason a risky pregnancy I think its better to refrain from sex until you reach those safe weeks.
When my friend was pregnant, she felt very insecure about her body and didn’t feel sexy. If you feel the same way, it makes sense you would react strongly to his apparent lack of interest.
Maybe he is worried about hurting the baby by having sex with you. It might help if he read a few articles about what is safe to do when you’re pregnant. All the experts agree that sex is totally safe.
Don’t beat yourself up over having more intense emotions right now. Literally every pregnant woman has to deal with the same thing. When I snap at Mr. Star during a mood swing, he doesn’t mind as long as I make it up to him later when I’m feeling better. So I think you have the right idea by spoiling him a bit.
Having sex every couple of weeks for two 21 year olds isn’t a lot.
I agree with Juke…your boyfriend is being a knob. Sounds to me like whenever things aren’t going his way, he pulls the old, ‘oh, you’re being delusional’ card on you.
You sound right as rain to me.
In normal pregnancy, yes. But there are exceptions:
"Sex during pregnancy may not be safe for women with a history of repeated miscarriages, preterm labor, bleeding, or an incompetent cervix (a condition in which the cervix effaces and dilates without contractions in the second or early third trimester, when the baby’s weight puts increasing pressure on it), she says.
That’s not all. Women with placenta previa (a condition where the placenta is covering the cervix) are at risk of hemorrhaging if they have sex during pregnancy. Women with premature rupture of membranes (PROM), which occurs when the sac containing the developing baby and the amniotic fluid bursts or develops a hole before labor, should also avoid sex during pregnancy, Salasche says.
“If there are not any contraindications, a woman can have intercourse throughout her whole pregnancy,” Foreman says.