kidsis reminds me sooo much of my daughter. She wants to protect and save everyone. 
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I remember you saying all manner of chaos would come to your door when your daughter was starting to date. It sounds like your daughter sort of grew out of this? Or just found a good guy?
Iām ready for my sis to grow out of this.
I hope that when she becomes a nurseā¦ she will see that she can have a relationship and not just acquire another patient.
Generalizingā¦
Change your beliefs, change your experience 
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Stereotype. Completely.
Iāve never liked ābadā boys. Anyone who is disrespectful, lazy, a cheater or whatever combination of negative adjectives.
Be you - donāt change your approach simply to get what you want (or think you want). Ultimately, even if you do get a woman by treating her harshlyā¦you might find sheās probably got more issues than you by farā¦no well adjusted woman wants a guy who treats her like crap.
Iāve also never gone out of my way to date āwoundedā men out of a desire to fix them; some people (both genders) do this as a way of escaping from their own problems, sometimes referred to as white-knight syndrome.
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I think its a case that young people donāt know their ankle from their elbow. You gotta to get to know yourself and be secure in yourself before you truly know to be attracted to a girl or guy who is nice and not just good looking. I know Im quite shallow when it comes to being attracted to girls but I think it comes down to having very little experience with girls. I never had a girlfriend nor have I had sex but I still think Im quite shallow when it comes to girls because I still have it in me to be enchanted by a good looking female, especially when they have an ever so sexy face.
I think thatās shallow, but Im trying to change.
I donāt see that as shallow. you just ālikeā sexy women more, I prefer beautiful women over not so beautiful womenā¦ thatās just our "preference. like if you prefer white over black, fat over skinny, blue eye instead of green. Thatās just the way I see it.
Oprah says when we know better, we do better.
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a nice guy is always remembered.
take care
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Once you date a few buttholes you get tired of being with someone who is angry all the time and the drama that comes with it. Find a lady who has previously been in an abusive relationship and left and she will treat you like gold if you are a nice guy.
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Sorry but I donāt like bad guys. I may like them at start because they are handsome or I might miss them, but after they have treated me bad for a long time, I ām trying to forget them and thatās what I do. It is not nice to make a girl suffer just because you like to get liked. The girl you had, got over you before you turned into a nice guy I guessed. Because she had suffered a lot. Donā t be a bad guy, please.
OP you might be able to relate to the following
Reflecting in my later years I concluded that I never made effort to proactively engage anyone in conversation.
On a subliminal level I felt that the right one would approach me.
Admittedly, looking back, I realized the reason that I wasnāt pro-actively approaching anyone is that I just didnāt have anything in common with them. There was just an instinctive barrier there that said āThis is going to be a very dry and grasping-at-straws conversation.ā so I would save both of us the embarrassment.
The ends justified the means. A lot of folks I see now from the past have broken families, anxiety and emotional strain from children they donāt get to see very often.
My fiancee (met in my early thirties) and myself, however, are free of all that.
As someone else pointed out as well - They were a young spirit seeking an older one born with more knowledge as to how to things work rather than try to get by with a peer.
Iām a young spirit myself and (quite frankly) this existence really isnāt my cup of tea so if reincarnation is such I am very glad that I do not have a child here leaving me feeling responsible to keep returning. (I donāt want to be an old and lessoned spirit here ever. lol ).
I found my way to the other side of SZ. I just had to tackle, explore and learn about what I had been running from. So I will also say that once you fully understand the situation in this existence - You might be very glad that youāve kept single this whole time.
This isnāt a Utopia and as such youāll find any practical romantic counterpart will be one in need of your company more so than one you simply desire for their looks or mannerisms.
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I feel I should say here that when this topic came up on one of my other forums it was decided that we werenāt talking mean or abusive when we said ābad guyā rather than ānice guyā, no one wants that. Rather we were talking ārebellious, dangerous, devil may care kind of guyā as opposed to the nice āresponsible, caring, rule following guyā.
This is the type of ābad guyā I assumed we were talking about, not just some abusive jerk. My first relationship was an abusive one, emotionally anyway, and yes guys can get stuck in abusive relationships too.
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