So I have this friend…well I think he’s my friend. We made an oath that our friendship will continue outside of our d job seeing as we are SO MUCH alike. I mean we literally have so many similarities it’s ridiculous. He would always say how his life is depressing and doesn’t have any friends so we made that oath. So I text him or call every now and then buy he replies days after or just leaves me on read. I understand people have there own lives and things going on but I feel like I’m just bothering him or like I’m the only one putting in effort into this “friendship”. He claims he’s bad at replying back and is never on his phone but it’s weird to me because when we use to hangout he was always on his phone.
I’m in a similar situation. I’ve sent a couple of texts to people i had considered my friend, but they have not replied to me, and it has been a couple of days. I am going to cut ties with one of them as this is the 3rd time i’ve had a poor response from them. I just wish people had the guts to say with honesty that our relationship was acquaintance only and not a true friendship. Sure it’ll hurt for a bit, but at least i’m not wasting my time pursuing them.
In your situation, i would ask him to be honest with you about your relationship and go from there. It won’t be easy but it should be done so you aren’t wasting your time.
yeah that can hurt. I have a friend who doesn’t communicate or doesn’t always respond but he gets really depressed too. Actually, I have a couple of friends like that. When they don’t respond, I usually figure it’s the depression or that they didn’t see my message. I eventually get back in contact with them and feel connected to them – like we both care about each other.
People with depression or anxiety generally have a hard time responding to texts. I have a friend like this. She does genuinely like me, but she gets so nervous with responding to messages, and feels like she is bothering me when she texts. We have been friends for five years and she still does this.