Forced Proximity to People

At work I feel like I am not a very nice person. It’s so hard to deal with people there. You never know what will set people off and there is so much bitterness and bitchiness I have never known anything like it before. It really stresses me out and I think it’s turning me into not a very nice person. I am finding I get angry very quickly now and I get drawn into spats with people because they rubbish ideas and things that we need to be doing and I find it hard not to say something if I see something is not working as it should.

I am at the point now where I think if I am to continue to work, it needs to be from home as I don’t like the environment and my social skills are so bad that I am always causing problems with people because I don’t know how to deal with them properly.

I have been told that is what offices are like, so I don’t know whether this is just something that you have to deal with? I like the work I do, but dealing with the people is very difficult.

It’s becoming less and less a healthy distraction that it once was.

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I think this is probably pretty common in the work place. Often it’s a just a few co-workers that can be difficult but they can unfortunately make the workplace a toxic environment.

If you enjoy the work, is there a way you can just try to limit your interactions with those co-workers that are the most problematic? It seems like a bit of a shame if you were to give up a job you enjoy.


I’m so sorry you have to deal with this.

I live in an assisted living facility. And I get paranoid of people. I am so blessed that this facility doesn’t force me to be proximal to people. They are allowing me to sit off to the side of the dining room, at a table all by myself, during dinner. Isn’t that great of them? I usually eat breakfast and lunch in my own apartment.

scottb, I felt that too.
meds helped me.

I will try and limit it as best as I can. The problem is these people seem to be deliberately disruptive and cause problems for people.