I just hate my life right now. I smoke cigarettes, but I am constantly upset about it. I pray. I cry. I get angry. nothing works anymore. I think there are emotional issues not being addressed but I don’t know exactly what to do about that. I’ve heard addiction is because of things that makes us inside. I am giving up.
Don’t give up. You have certain things going for you jukebox. You are lucky enough to have a girlfriend. You are musical. You seem very easy-going and likable. You live on your own. You have support here on this site. You’re going through a rough patch, try to endure and keep going. Good luck.
“When you’re going through hell, keep going”.
Winston Churchill
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I recently cut way down on alcohol because I used as meds it was almost a daily thing.
Now im down to once a week if that so I replaced my drinking with cigarettes and man I feel horrible.
I don’t even have enough breath to excersise on a regular basis and that sucks.
What I do is try to cut down by only taking 3-4 drags then put it out and a few hours later repeate its kinda working.
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Have you ever tried chantix? Thats what worked for me. I am right now 24 days without smoking. The chantix helps a lot…really kills the cravings. I dont know what your insurance is like but if you have medicare you can get it pretty cheap from the pharmacy. Just a thought!
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Be strong…I gave out on no masturbation too…now I do it daily,the positive is that I am less stressful and mentally better
I was doing fine with my diet and losing weight. Then… boom. Trying to get going again and not feel like a total schmuck. I’m not giving up, but I’m not feeling all that great about myself right now either. I know where you’re coming from.
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There have to be tons of quit smoking support groups out there. Addiction is a nasty thing, you can break the need but you can’t ever break the desire. Cut yourself some slack, it’s very difficult for a lot of people. Find yourself a good network to keep you straight. I hope things get better for you.
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I’ve been smoking for seven years and have tried quitting a half dozen times. Today makes three days without a cigarette. The first day was tough but I manipulated my mind from smoking by doing this:
First, see if you can get your hands on nicotine patches/gum. In California, there is a program where they ship you a 4 week supply of patches free of charge and make follow-up calls to monitor your progress. When you decide your quit date, use the patch with a “new start” attitude. When you begin to have a craving, resist. Keep resisting and notice just how difficult it is to do this. I can’t stress the importance of mindfulness at this moment: feel the pressure, the stress of the moment. It make take all of your will. If you absolutely cannot do it, do something you don’t want to do: for me, house chores. I’ll sweep, wash, scrub, get your hands dirty. If you find that a few hours have passed, great! When the craving strikes again, recall how difficult it was to resist the urge and the feelings associated with it; you can think it, write it down, or simply just verbalize it. Use this as a platform for future refusals. For me, on that first day, the cravings hit hard and often. I recalled in my mind the painstaking will it took to refuse the cigarette and repeated this affirmation: I will not allow my hard work go to waste. Supplement your quitting by removing lighters, matches, cig coupons or anything that may cause a relapse. Keep your things (your residence, bills, plans, etc) in order.
I will simplify this with a step by step guide:
- Pick planned quit date
- Use cessation aid (patch, gum, pill) on quit day
- When urges strike, resist
- if you cannot resist, do something you do not want to do (ex. chores) until the urge passes
- Stay present during urges
- monitor, write, verbalize core feeling during the urge and resistance
- Recall core feeling when urges strike again
- Use affirmation (I will not allow my hard work to go to waste)
- Supplemental activities to avoid relapse
- Keep things around you orderly
- As days mount, the urges decrease as does the nicotine dependence
Quitting is not easy and requires some work. For me, quitting cold turkey works for awhile, but not having a plan in place set me up to fail. When I write, I adopt these principles and further distance myself from smoking and other detrimental behavior. Don’t give up and don’t give in!
Maybe you could cut back. That might help you feel better about yourself and make you healthier. Try not to let smoking get you down.
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**You are being WAY too hard on yourself! Arent you also trying to quit smoking MJ and drinking?**Im not trying to discourage you from trying to quit–just go easy and steady with yourself…OO