This women read me as a trans women instead of an AFAB non binary person and told me i couldnt join her group. She said somwone in the group had a husband that turned into a women and i qould be too triggering for her. Made me feel like crap. Like is my mere existence really to blame for her triggers? Not a group id want to join anyway
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Iām sorry this happened. Some people are so quick to judge and label. You said it though, probably not a group youād want to be a part of anyway. At least they showed their colors early I guess?
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Yeah definitely. Im glad i didnt join and the. Get there and it be an issue all of a sudden
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I donāt feel like i have a group I can go with either.
No group I āfit inā with.
āMy family ā are my enemies because I gave them unconditional love and they attacked me intellectually so canāt be proven and hated suppressed nnwere horrible.
I donāt hate them I just avoid them.
When I was Muslim I didnāt āfit inā with other muslims.
I never go in or with any groups.
Definitely not in this neighbourhood.
Iām a loner.
Where the f u. Ck are my people.
Good you have a boyfriend and that woman you are dating.
And friends.
Yeah not a group for you. A better one is out there.
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Ouch. Thatās hurts. Iām so sorry
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This is the kind of stuff where triggers get taken way too far. If a person finds the presence of another human being triggering, that is a real and valid issue to struggle with. But it is not the type of thing that should be accommodated through avoidance. That is the type of thing where someone should seek out therapy until they learn how to cope with their intense trigger. Even if it was a therapy group, maybe the person needs 1:1 therapy until they can handle the presence of others.
And it doesnāt even sound like this person was the one saying you were triggering her. It sounds like someone else made that judgment for her, either out of genuine concern, or as an excuse to cover up her own prejudices.
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Is detailing triggers something that can be triggering? Honestly I feel triggered by what this woman did to you (and others btw, sheās discriminating against a group)
How do I express my sentiments on what loving kindness is with words?! On an online forumā¦
Anyway Iām sorry you went through this
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I talked with my friend that has been in the community longer and she said that this person was like this ten years ago and this is the first year shes back with us almsot since then and thry had forgotten about it. Shes prejudice against trans people for sure. Shes so nice otherwise. So i wasnt even expecting it by any means.
@FreeLunch i appreciate it
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@Ninjastar i forgkt to meantion she said its for women born women only before she said that about the other member
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Ugh, sorry. I have run into a few of those also. I have learned to avoid like the plague anything that says it is a community for āwomen and trans peopleā because they tend to mean āWomen and people who look enough like women for us to find attractive because we think we can convince them to detransition and just be the butch girl of our dreamsā
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Thats so obnoxious! I am lucky this retreat im at itself is extremely welcoming. There are a few of us NB folk and almost everyone is supportive and educated.
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great to hear it!
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Iām sorry that happened., doesnāt sound like a group Iād want to be part of.
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