Got offered to go out with a load of my female mates to the night club on the Pier here, But i said NO - cos i know damn well i would pick up a drink. . And now im feeling pissed off with myself. This sober life sure is screwing up my social life. Someone please tell me i did the right thing? So instead im stuck indoors with netflix, and a cup of bloody yorkshire tea. when i know all my mates are having a laugh on a saturday night. Im getting bloody depressed over it.
I know itâs hard but if alcohol is causing a problem in your life then youâre doing the right thing. When i wanted to quit getting high i had to cut out all my old friends because i knew i wasnât strong enough to be around them and not join in. It will get easier at some point. Finding something else to do helps a lot. Hang in there, man. You can do it.
Yeah i know mate. Ive been isolated alot lately - thats all - and could have done with a boogie on a dance floor :(. Early night for me i think - then i wont think about it so much. Cheers mate x . One Drink i know - and ive undid my sobriety x
Iâm sober many years. In my heart of heart, I know when Iâm feeling slippery.
I had one drinking buddy who was exceptionally good to me. He stopped calling me after I kept refusing to do things with him. Iâm sorry I lost that relationship. But ya know, Iâm not God.
Some people use the word âLonelyâ when I would say, âHorny.â If I want to have sex with someone, my sobriety is Okay with that. Your mileage may vary.
No im definatley lonely not horny - most of my female mates are gay anyway lol!
I think im gonna be the same and lose some friends - which frankly upsets me - cos i dont have many. They dont always tell you âjustâ how bloody hard it is giving up a lifetime of boozing. I take my hat off to you for being sober for many years fella - send me some of your resolve and strength!
Ive got to quit anyway - its pissing about with my APs - and i cant do my therapy stinking of booze. Im sure i will get over it. (I hope) - Its just bloody hard changing my attitudes to life and my lifestyle.
Do your friends know about your alcohol problem? If so, then they donât seem like very good friends to me, no offense. They canât hang out anywhere that alcohol isnât a large part of the experience?
Yeah ive already made a list of pros and cons. And the staying sober wins out - purely for my mental health wellbeing.
Unfortunatley - all my friends are from the bar, so i seriously doubt they are gonna wanna go bowling or similar or clubbing without booze involved. I know what the answer will be and it will be a resounding âNOâ.
Quitting like i have is gonna mean me losing some freinds (temporary) i hope. Its not that they would ever mind me ordering a coke or whatever in a club, the issue- is -with me at the moment simply not trusting myself not to order a pint, whilst in there. Im simply not strong enough yet to be in licensed premises.
They are not the type to simply wanna meet up in a coffee shop.
No they dont know about my alchohol problem - i simply havent told them, and to be honest - they are all alcoholics themselves in a way. Whatever social gathering weve been too - does ALWAYS involve in a drink or some other afterwards, im afraid.
Maybe they are not very good friends in that respect - but they the only ones i got!
Well, you never know what theyâll agree to if you donât ask. Worst comes to worst, nothing changes, but if theyâre willing to hang out somewhere without alcohol, then you can safely spend time with them. Itâs a no risk situation. Ask and you shall receive.
They are happy drinking daze - i suppose you could guess they are functioning alcholics - but they dont have an MI like i do, if you see what i mean. And yeah - tried the orange juice thing in the bar and lasted a âdayâ - went str8 back on the bloody guiness. And yeah,I will try to treat myself once im solvent - another thing my habit has done is put me in debt.
Circle - They wont change, ive known them all for 5 years now - reality is - if im gonna stay sober ive gotta dis-associate for a bit. I simply dont trust myself at the moment, i havent got enough sober days under my belt yet to have the strength.
Stay strong, my friend. I know what loneliness is - not having anyone to snuggle up with really bothers me. I wasnât a drinker but I did know the haze of a smokerâs pipe dreaming. I did quit and I think you can be successful, too. Youâll be glad you did.
Thanks @PinCushion. Yeah the loniless is biting a bit, but i can be a stubborn sod when i want to be, so ill be alright. Its just a battle. I miss my cuddles too
Gonna have an early night with an audiobook i think x
Sounds good - i went silly a couple months ago and bought a load of self-help and fantasy fiction from audible buying cheap credits. Got 22 books to pile thru lol. Currently listening to under the dome by stephen king. Got it on an echo - so i just tell it to shut up when i wanna go sleep
Will log on tommorow - this chaps bogging off to his pit. Night x Thanks for support you guys - you made my evening a lot easier to deal with. Ta. ROG
. And now im feeling pissed off with myself. This sober life sure is screwing up my social life. Someone please tell me i did the right thing? So instead im stuck indoors with netflix, and a cup of bloody yorkshire tea. when i know all my mates are having a laugh on a saturday night. 