Family advice for my kids

I have search both this forum and the family one for advice on what to tell my kids.
I’ve been a real psychotic mess a few times, and mt oldest daughter, who is now a nurse, has trouble with it, hardly talks to me.
Any advice or suggestions is welcome. What do you tell your kids?

I’ve search the family forum too, that seems to be packed with mothers who has a son on drugs also living at home.
Very narrow demographic.

My eldest daughter is 24 just became a LPN, working on her RN.
My other daughter is 21 also in college, learning the ropes on alcohol and college life.

Just tell your daughters you did the best you could with a difficult affliction.

I’m really not into this revisionist guilt against my own parents. I’ve got better things to do, and a family of my own now.

You never truly appreciate your own parents, until you have kids of your own.

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Well, first, they are not ‘kids’ anymore, they are a young women, capable of gathering the information, reading and understanding on they own. They should know your diagnosis and the most relevant information about it. The rest is up to them - they are adults and pretty much formed individuals now.
We all have regrets as a parents. Just don’t make it define who you are now.

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Well, it didn’t occur to me to tell my son until he was 18 and told ME about his symptoms, which he had been dealing with since he was 13 (exactly like me). Since then, we talk a lot about our shared experiences with sz.
But I don’t know how much I would have told him if he didn’t also have sz.
I try to own my mistakes as a mom. I’ve apologized to my son for the mistakes I know I made. That doesn’t mean he holds it over me, but it’s brought us closer because we communicate as equals. (He’s 22)

I don’t know what my fiancé and I are gonna tell our child. We’ve talked about it, and we just can’t seem to figure out what we wanna do. We know we wanna tell him or her early on, so we can explain the risks and make sure they grow up knowing that if they inherit it, they have support and won’t be clueless as to what’s going on, but how do you even approach that topic and how young is too young? I’m really struggling with this as well and it stresses me out more every week that passes

My girls are 12 years old. They just know that Daddy takes a pill once a day to feel better.

That’s all they need to know for now. But later, if they ask deeper questions for sure I’ll be forthright with them regarding my schizophrenia.