Lately I’ve been finding myself getting stuck in these moods swings, one hour I’ll be really happy & the next really sad. It seems like there’s rarely a middle ground with my moods. It ■■■■■■ sucks
In my life, I am usually 100% fine or 100% falling apart. I’ve learned, over time, that this is because I have trouble recognizing my emotions when they happen. So there is a gradual buildup of negativity, but I don’t notice it until it’s completely overwhelming. I have recently been working on checking in with myself a few times throughout the day. I go over events that have occurred, and I think about how they made me feel. Then I acknowledge those feelings and give them a few minutes of consideration. I usually do this at lunch and dinner. So far, it seems to be helping. It makes it easier to spot a dozen tiny problems and deal with them before they turn into one giant problem.
It’s also possible you have a mood disorder. If you discuss your concerns about your mood with your doctor, they might be able to teach you more coping skills.
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How’s your diet and sleep schedule?
Do you smoke or drink caffeine or alcohol?
Do your mood swings revolve around a certain situation? Girl/guy problems… living with parents… being unemployed… all of the above?
You don’t really need to answer.
But consistent healthy food, eliminating the substances, and finding contentment with your life situation can go along way in providing stability. From there getting some exercise and finding a hobby/craft you enjoy can really be uplifting.
I go through mood swings periodically. I have a stable diet though. It’s mainly about not getting enough sleep and drinking to much caffeine.
There is a particular girl that I just had a couple bad dreams about. In the first one she was hanging with my cousin as I had seen him many times in the morning when at his place. She showed concern for me but went back to focusing on him. Kind of hurt… woke up and realized it was just a dream… went back to sleep… sure enough another dream… her talking to some random guy while I watched… she left saying she would come back with some smokes… then eventually one of her friends shows up instead with a couple camel wides to give me as a parting gift of sorts… like a sorry but I’m not interested.
I mean it doesn’t reflect reality at all of when I spend time with this girl, but that’s just what my subconscious is used to doing. Upsetting as it actually leads to distrust for the girl in real life even though she is totally separate from my judgments… if that makes sense.
I’m just kind of using this thread to vent for a second. Forgive me… but I just woke up and that’s what is still on my mind. I hope that if her and I grow closer like we have been over the last few months my mind will drop this self torment and actually heal those fears away…
They are after all just the product of the havoc the first girl I fell in love with left in my mind.
Everything needs to be put in proper context is what I’m getting at. Life situations like that. There are other girls out there. I can work to move out. I can start with part time and ease into full time… Etc. Positivity.
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If my experience is anything to go by, the dreams don’t really stop, but if you can separate them from reality and remember that dreams are liars, you can have a really great relationship anyways. I’m getting married in a few months. Whenever I have one of those dreams, I immediately tell my fiance about them and then together we make fun of the dream, because humor is how I prove things have no power over me. In my dreams though, I’m always the one doing the cheating. Never have, and never would, but we can’t control our dreams.
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Yeah… I’m visiting said girly in a little over a month… she isn’t local though she visits frequently. I’m trying to settle my demons in the mean time… it’s not really an official or exclusive relationship or anything like that… not sure if she is even interested in having something like that in her life right now…
But it’s one of the benefits of having distant interests… really gives me the time alone to sort out all the bad wiring from past experiences… these dreams area manifestation of my fears of rejection in preference for someone else.
Which is really nonsense with this girl… as she has been pretty interested in me since the night we started talking.
She already knows all of my flaws… but she said a few things that have troubled me… “life’s all about the chase” and “I’m not a good person.” She’s also interjected “innocence is beautiful to me”.
When we were more just on the platform as friends we were discussing love… She said she had been in love once but the sex was bad [paraphrased]… I asked her if she ever had both… “Well that’s the dream isn’t it?” she responded.
She does have a monogamous side in there I’m pretty sure… a trustworthy partner if she has chosen the role for herself… She’s pretty independent otherwise.
Apparently it’s true though… my cousin and one of my friends had slept with her long ago… They all went to high school together. The past doesn’t bother me, but I know those guys. They have no respect for bro-code. I also know she’s not that kind of girl…
It would all be about how the dynamics unfold when we’re all together at the bars or whatever. Which has happened a lot in the past, and so far she has taken primarily to talking to me… even buying me drinks and all that to get me to go out there. Will that change though? Perhaps I don’t have the depth that I appear to at first. If she doesn’t find herself loving me then she’s bound to move on.
but these are distant concerns… for now her presence and support has really only helped me… it’s just hard to access her at times. by distance and her of volition…
Still when her and I hanging out together it’s pretty great. She seems really happy and we talk at length about all kinds of things…
I’m not really worried, but I was born having that void… not really considering life full unless I was en-coupled…
now I’mma dip out of this thread. I’ve derailed it far enough.
Feel free to PM. You sound like you just need someone to talk to about all this, but yeah, this thread is about mood swings.
Agreed, I’ll talk to my doc about it. Maybe I do have some sort of mood disorder. When I do get really sad it’s for no reason at all, it just comes about.
I used to think that, but I’ve learned that there usually is a reason, I just don’t realize it at the time. It could be different for you though.
I haven’t really been sleeping or eating well lately. That may have something to do with it.
Yeah… I think a good diet helps bring good sleep… I mainly stick to protein and fiber and take a multivitamin…
but for me its abusing caffeine that really sets off insomnia…
it’s a tug of war… between boredom & addiction and making real life progress when I can & learning self control… or moderation
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