So tonight, I’m getting together with my husband and my former friend and her boyfriend of 1 year
I stopped talking to her a little over a year ago
But I miss her and she texted me that she misses me and we started chatting again about 5 days ago
My biggest issue is she texts me all day long and all night long. She wants to know exactly what I’m doing and thinking throughout the morning, day, and night.
If I’m vague, she gets upset and presses me for more info.
It’s like having my mind raped or something.
It really bothers me.
I tried talking to her about it, but she thinks it’s a me problem and not a her problem.
On the other hand, she does care and is kind and she makes me laugh. She was my best friend for 10 years.
She sounds like she has an extremely extroverted personality. A friend like that can be loyal and kind but could get draining. I agree with @Gamera and @jukebox , try to set boundaries so you don’t get your social battery drained.
I had a friend like that, actually not as bad as what you describe, but he would ring me up almost every day. It was stressful. I tried talking to him about it, but it didn’t help more than a few days, and he was at it again.
I ended the relationship, although there were other things going on as well, which I won’t get into.
Well it’s ok to change your mind if it becomes too stressful. Maybe you could try to get across that you don’t want to be friends only on her terms, but on your terms as well.