I passed up on things like this in the past. A part of me wants to go but I can’t really drink alcohol because of the meds. I could just go alcohol free beers, but also I think I would just sit there and be pretty flat while everyone else is lit up and wonders what is the matter with me.
I’m going to pass. I like my colleagues, but I just think it would highlight that something is wrong with me. Most of my colleagues is a lot younger than me too, so it would be going out on their terms. I just don’t think I’m up to it.
I went to my sunday dance events stone cold sober last year and still had fun. You should go, it’s better to have a fun experience with others than to sit around the house by yourself. When you die you’ll regret all the times you didn’t dance
I might inquire a little about what their plan is before I make up my mind completely.
If it was like the british culture where you take a couple of pints after work and be done with it I think it would be okay. But in my country most people saves it up to the weekend and stay out until really late. It’s customary that most nightlife places and bars close at 2.30am. That means I will miss my meds and I won’t get a wink of sleep that night and the next day will be pretty gruesome. Because my insomnia issues I’m unable to sleep unless I take meds. Even if I had not slept for 10 days I still couldn’t get any sleep without taking my meds.
It sounds like maybe you think you should want to go but don’t. Please don’t mess with your self-care schedule at all (so not worth it!) and do what works for you reasonably.
Can you meet them somewhere and leave when you need to? Control of my schedule, environment, comfort level is really important to me, and I would only go if I had an easy escape.
I agree with @Hedgehog. Can you go just for a set amount of time and then go home? Maybe tell them you’re only going to go for an hour and then leave. If you’re older then they might understand. It might make you feel you have more control over the situation.
I suppose I’m free to leave whenever I choose. But you know how it is with the peer pressure. “Don’t leave now!” “Why are you leaving?” And it would be pretty weird to explain that under those circumstances although one of my colleagues attending know about my condition. The only thing that could make me go is if they start early in the evening and are not planning a allnighter.
Once I was in a nightclub and a very old lady sat next to me I think she was at least 70y.o. Then my friend talked into my ear and told me would you dance with her and date her lol I was in my 20s.
Peer pressure only exists in your mind. You do what’s right for you and their opinions, fake disappointment or pressure is their problem not yours.
This sounds like no fun. Go only if you really want the time out, but don’t do it for anyone else.
No, I doubt I’ll be going. Maybe it also has to do with me working every day from monday till saturday this week. 35 hours alltogether. I’m not supposed to work that much, but I agreed to do it now in the summer vacation time, fort two weeks. I worked last week, but then only 50%. This week it’s already starting to get to me, and I’m only half way. I don’t see myself going out on saturday after all this work. I just got to focus on getting through this week. But if I was feeling well I would like to go.
