I wear gloves outside at all times for this reason
I don’t know if it’s offensive to me per se but it’s physically painful when people typically touch me. My ex-wife didn’t cause this to happen to me which is unfortunate because she’s just a manipulative psychopath.
She’s also not a very bright one I guess because she caused me to cut off all contact with her when I was complaining she was barely on Skype to talk to me which is the only way we were able to communicate right now realistically and she thought the solution to that was to sign out and wait until I email her when I’m “done being an ■■■■■■■” and she claimed to rely heavily on the $400 a month I no longer send her.
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I don’t get offended but it startles me and makes me anxious. It’s only when people grab me when I get a little violent. It feels like self defense both from anxiety, and I think they are part of the conspiracy when they do that.
I don’t trust most men who touch other men. It’s supposed to be a friendly gesture but it often turns into a power or vagually sexual thing. That said, when I first got into AA, I found out that a lot of men there are huggers. It bothered me a lot at first but pretty soon I got used to it and I Iearned that it was just a legitimaly friendly gesture and nothing more.Pretty soon it didn’t bother me.
Some men kiss each other in other cultures just as a friendly gesture. Here in America though that’s GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY but America is typically stupid anyway. I mean there’s a good reason that countries like Canada think we’re way behind in the times that marriage equality was only made legal recently.
It’s a friendly gesture but let’s not forget that when you have paranoid delusions and anxiety it’s a LOT more than just a friendly gesture to you. It’s not their fault they make me and others uncomfortable, but it’s not my fault I’m bothered by them.
I’ve had a huge problem with this due to tactile problems… and sneaky brained thinking
It used to really upset me and freak me out a bit when people were touchy feely. I’m still not that much of a touchy feely person, but I’m getting better about stuff.
I have to trust a person a lot before I can let them touch me.
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Only if I am caught off guard or something like that. If someone hugs me i feel a bit anxious but kinda flattered
I dont mind being touched. I like to give high fives. Im high fiver
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i love to get hugs. judy
I have zero problems with a handshake or a fist-bump. Hugs and touching from the wife are obviously okay. Touching from strangers is a no-go. With people I know, as long as it’s least casually, I don’t mind.
I have a hard time with shaking peoples hands - even family members.
Forget about any kind of touch by a stranger, dont accept it.
I dont mind quick hugs by certain family members.
I have lots of different contamination fears from my OCD - I wash my hands frequently.
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I am that one annoying hugger and kisser and cuddler that everyone hates and avoid :running:
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My wife is a hugger, kisser and cuddler. Makes life worth living.
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There was this older woman who was some kind of secretary who worked at our day center. At the time I was going down early and fixing a second breakfast for our residents at the day center before they arrived for day treatment. This woman would be there, and she used to give me the creepiest touches. They felt sexual. I didn’t object, but I don’t know if I was cringing perceptibly when she did this. Anyway, they quit having these breakfasts for our residents, and I lost my job. I sometimes wonder if it was because I didn’t respond the right way to this woman’s touches.
I would’ve liked that actually if my ex-wife would’ve been like that at all.
Depends on who and the vibe I get.
I don’t know if it offends me but it does freak me out when people touch me and scares me it just makes me feel very paranoid
Do you wear the gloves so you won’t touch someone else + offend them?
when i was little i used to think if people touches me skin to skin they can read my mind, so i avoided touching others, this idea went away with time