I talked about the girl I met earlier, she’s borderline personality disorder. And my friend told me randomly I didn’t even tell him she’s borderline but he said “bpd people will screw you over real bad without you even knowing!” I know there’s a lot of Stigma about borderline personality disorder but my friends comments kind of messed with my head. I mean what is the worst that could happen? Just got me worried a little bit. I think I’ll take the risk but I’ll be cautious
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My best friend has BPD. Would trust 'em with my life
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I’d say it depends on how aware they are of their behaviors and how important it is to them to interact in a healthy manner and be a good friend.
BPD people tend to have a lot of trauma and be in a lot of pain. Most of the problematic behaviors are survival mechanisms - when your friend says that they’ll screw you over without you even knowing, he could also have said “without them even knowing.” It’s hardly ever a deliberate decision to manipulate and take.
That’s why someone unaware or unconcerned with the effects of these behaviors can be dangerous. But if they know and care, then I would almost say that I would trust them even more than someone without BPD.
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For the record, this isnt really a romantic interest… At least far from yet but I shared during group I’m learning to make beats and between groups she said she has connections in the music industry. So I showed her my music she said she likes it.
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It seems like she cares, she said for 22 years she was in denial about her borderline personality disorder but now she’s finally come to an acceptance. She wants me to meet her at the Buddhist temple tomorrow for a meditation group. I will check it out because I’m interested in that anyways.
She seemed to have good insight into her “disorder”
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No way, that’s totally cool 
<3
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It is really variable on how close you are to who. From my recollection borderline personality disorder is characterized by chaotic social relations. You cannot over generalize though and expect all people to be the same with a given personality disorder. With that noted, borderline personality people can be quite a handful at times. I dated one woman who frequented a borderline forum and she seemed to fit the archetype. She was very aggressive and deceitful. She turned out to be married with a kid yet always accused me instead of dishonesty. But she is only one person so I won’t generalize. I have met other people who they felt they had borderline personality who were far more agreeable
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She claims that borderlines will do anything for love… That was the only thing she really shared about her personality disorder. They so desperately want to be loved.
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Time for my music lessons though. Hopefully I’ll be j dilla 2.0 in an hour from now haha jk.
I trust them too. It’s more the person’s character and values
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I’d also say it’s kinda along the lines of if someone said don’t date someone with schizophrenia. Or insert mental disorder here.
There’s good ones and bad ones.
I personally think those of us who have good insight and work towards recovery and functioning are even more so trusting as we have been humbled by our illness.
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There’s some truth to that. With that in mind, the only thing I’d caution is, well, caution with her claims of being able to get you a record deal. Maybe she has those connections and that power, maybe she doesn’t, maybe the truth is somewhere in between. Just keep in mind that she may be overstating in order to secure your attention and interest, because those things are likely very important to her.
Obviously I’ve never met her and so am not making any sort of judgment based on knowledge of her! Just a thing to keep in mind and to not get too disappointed about if it turns out to be the case.
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I wouldn’t trust even normies; another thing that would make me avoid them is that they are generally very emotional and impulsive; like the complete opposite of sz apathy.
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hello recently diagnosed borderline here
i would say it really really depends on the person. some people dont give a ■■■■ about their disordered behaviors and WILL ■■■■ you up in the long run but those are are aware and know they have a problem wont intentionally hurt you. one of my best friends has borderline pd and theyre CONSTANTLY worried about having hurt peoples feelings and not being good enough for them
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I don’t care enough about anything; it’s cool to have someone who cares too much about everything.
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It’s the yin and the yang!!!
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I prefer the peace of apathy. 
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Too much stability and I start to go C R A Z Y 
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But I agree with korieve. The diagnostic criteria for BPD is pretty broad. Of 9 possible symptoms a person only needs 5, so you could have 2 people with an identical diagnosis but that behave very differently.
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That’s actually a really good point, too 
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