@anon54988740 Many people don’t understand or know that they are attractive. If many men/women found you attractive, then you are. Again physical attraction is so subjective.
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I’m not usually attracted to that really polished Prince charming look as much as some kind of beautiful unusual look.
But like I said, some people can grow on you.
Like alarmingly strongly
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@anon54988740 as I just hit 44, I find my people my age attractive vs when I was younger I would not have.
@Zoe I also find unconventional beauty more special and interesting and sexy. I find alot of times conventionally attractive guys sometimes cheesy looking.
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Thanks @Kxev @Zoe. Mae you said something this morning that got me thinking about when I was a kid and teenager. I was going to ask my psychiatrist tomorrow about Mama Cass dying in 1974 due to heart failure because of crash dieting. She was with the American folk band The Mamas & The Papas from the 1960’s. I didn’t think dieting could cause heart failure. She was in London when she died.
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@anon54988740 You really still know and in contact with your first?
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Yes. He’s still alive, and I talk to him occasionally. I’m really protective of him though. He was breaking the law by being with me back then. Maybe it’s not a big deal now. He’s bisexual and has a wife now. He wasn’t married when I was with him. I say that because he loves his wife and has never cheated on her.
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I understand. I think its great you still are in touch. That’s really touching. Laws were created to protect a majority of minors and don’t take into certain considerations. 18 is such an arbitrary number but the law exist for a reason.
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Well, I’m not going to say anything. He was only six years older than me though. The Statue of Limitations may have run out on it. Sodomy laws have been declared unconstitutional I believe. I’m glad he has a wife now that cares about him. He was a gentleman with me and never hurt me.
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I think women, on average, care less about looks. That’s why they often prioritize it less and men more. It’s not that men are dumb or shallow. It’s not that women are more fair or are forced to consider other things. It’s just that they care less about it on average. But I think most women do care a lot about looks as well.
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An interesting thing here, it’s used to be legal for 18 year olds to smoke cigarettes. They changed the law and it’s now 21. You got all these people under 21 who are addicted but can’t buy cigarettes anymore.
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Thanks @anon9798425
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@anon4362788. You have sons I think. What do you think about me having sex with a bisexual 22 year old man when I was 16? My mom would have had a fit, even though it was me who made the first moves sexually.
Like I said I don’t know if she would objected if it was with a high school girl. It was.legal back then to have straight sex at 16, but not gay sex.
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I can easily be attracted to a good looking man
But that doesn’t necessarily mean that I would easily get along with them
Or want to date them etc.
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That’s pretty interesting.
I did not know that either
Would love to know how that works.
That crash dieting can lead to heart failure 
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She was in London when she died. I believe that’s what the UK authorities determined. The urban legend is she choked to death on a ham sandwich. I remember people saying that back then.
That really wasn’t a very nice thing to say. She was overweight though. I didn’t understand the ham sandwich thing back then.
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That’s a tragic way to die.
Thanks for the warning I have done crash dieting many times
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I’m going to find out from my pdoc tomorrow. I didn’t think cash dieting could kill you either. I’ll let you know if he does his usual 15 minutes of questions and answers.
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Thanks @anon54988740 that sounds good.
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What can I say? I was really experienced sexually with men by the time it was legal for me to have gay sex at twenty-one. I only had sex with one man before then, and I was happy with just him. I never slept around much when I was in a relationship. I was 21 in 1980 with HIV coming in later on. Maybe that’s why I survived.
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