Do you think people treat you poorly if you are not ''beautiful''?

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Many studies have been conducted to determine if men and women who are considered good-looking by societal standards receive preferable treatment and they all conclude that the answer is yes.

One part of the study had two women walking on a busy sidewalk with books in their hands. One woman was considered good-looking by the researchers (using societal standards), and the other woman was not considered good-looking by the researchers (using societal standards).

When the good-looking woman purposely dropped her books about 12 men helped her pick up the books, but when the woman not considered good-looking purposely dropped her books only two men (with the same number of men near her as the good-looking woman) helped her pick up the books.

Thus good-looking people do have an advantage over people not considered good-looking, but the advantage is not so great that it cannot be overcome.

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A lot of people judge a book by its cover for sure. I do it sometimes but I’m usually aware when I do it.

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In my opinion I’ve come to notice people tend to subconsciously look down on ugly people and treat them like they are less important than the prettier ones. Why? I have no idea. Everybody should know by now it’s what’s on the inside that really matters.

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Definitely. People treat me differently depending on if ive shaved and have my haircut. Most people just give me looks when i stop caring what i look like. Its wrong but people do that. Most people r just terrible people in general so i stopped caring

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Humans crap like any other animal from an organ like any other animal, so when they act like idiotic animals, you can bet that it’s them being what they are.

I like some animals, and I don’t some others. The ones I’ve had more exposure to I like more easily than otherwise.

So since I was raised around many dogs and cats from the time I was just a pup, I naturally have a social affinity with those species. I was also around many other kinds of animals, so in general my brain says they are part of my society in some way. I use the same “mind theory” for them as I do for people as in seeing things through their eyes like I do for people but with some differences per the species and the individual’s character.

The religion of “beauty” is simply based on the guise that a form of informational values is worth more than another without having any actual practical use. Philosophically and logically it is a ruse, and socially it is something having a species of Lemurs of which have had to selectively breed a pork chop on their faces for their families to be considered the same species by the rest of the Lemurs.

This goes a lot deeper into the socio-political aspects where majority patterns on or within people are used to strong arm rob minorities of people without them in order to steal their land, business markets, wealth, and their labor in slavery.

The fact is that when people treat people differently based on the pattern of:

Their visual pattern
Language Pattern
Original Location
Thinking Pattern

…what they are really doing is clinging to resources by followings trend while not really believing in it, or they are cornering a minority in order to steal the dignity and/or the resources about that minority and perhaps the real estate or market that the minority occupies.

So for instance if a bully wants to lead a group, and they pick on you for being a different kind of person, but they don’t steal anything, they are simply robbing your dignity for social status purposes among themselves.

It actually goes even deeper than this.

The human mind is a kind of “informational technology” if you will. It’s most distinct negative down side is its vague renderings of what information is of ones own inner self, what information is of external reality, and what information is of other people’s internal reality as well as their external reality.

The more accurate the mental discernment between them in a mind the more that the person logically speaks and behaves, thus the person is ultimately successful. The more inaccurate that the discernment is, the more illogically the person behaves and speaks, thus the more unsuccessful that person is.

It is the success that defines what “external profiles” are have historically been valued as more, and then since that profile became more prominent, it was even easier to succeed, thus it becomes a societal priority as far as the values of one profile vs. another are concerned.

If a person has grown up with a talisman that protrudes into sight such as a nose, slitted eyes, cheap bones, brow bones over deep set eyes, large lips, a large ■■■■■, or large breasts, these things have a tendency to add weight that can be felt and/or visual sense of what is the self vs. what is not the self.

Some people will add piercings, clothing, tats etc in order to induce the same effects.

This self vs. not self ratio helps to improve the logical behavior, and since it is widely accepted that people of these protrusions are more successful, it is believed before they have even spoken that they are simply more logical and more practical to listen to etc.

In other words what you are believing that society assumes is more beauty on a human profile is something like a big bull ring, studs pierced across the eye brows, hoops in the ear lobes, and two spare packs of underwear in the shirt or one in the pants.which…

…help rudder the mind which is innately a phenomenon that has trouble discerning information that is from the self, other selves, or external reality.

To tell them apart is higher success, and higher success is societally more beloved.

But a person can trick the societal drone phenomenon…

…by simply developing a profound talent such as speech and/or other activities like sports, work etc which when observed imply that the person has a…

…profound ability to discern self from not self or “mental proprioception.”

Automatically this person is beloved because this is exactly what the brain is assuming about people that are supposedly more “beutifi” of which there is no such thing.

There is no such thing as a more “fidel” order of geometry except perhaps in the logical fallacies of religious and cult contexts, but there is such as thing as more practical, and the person assumed to have the best most durable and reliable sense of mental proprioception is always more beloved.

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It’s an unofficially declared religion. Politics are too, or I should say that it’s a belief system that exists as a “coat in a kind of coat factory,” and people find that they are here, they see that there are coats, and they put one on to believe in order to be classed with the others that do to. (not literally a coat but a metaphor for ideological belief systems)

Every nation, empire, fan base, product user, company, society, culture, and science are belief systems. Sometimes they want to believe n it, and sometimes they have to believe in it, or they will be hurt.

I choose not to believe in beauty or “the religion of aesthetics” because I believe that it illogical, and nothing good comes from it except to spin in place having gone nowhere all over a logical fallacy that only a brain can produce like it is legitimate.

Ever since I took this route in my life, I wound up accomplishing a lot more, and learning a lot more than I would have if I had kept believing in it like everyone else seemed to believe.

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I think only it happens in love and sex. But in works talent is necessary.

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I think it is important too look at the inside as well.

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I get treated better if I’m thinner and have my hair and make-up done. But what people don’t realize is I’m always beautiful.

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There is this one man here at the Senior Retirement Center, who works here, who treats me poorly. I can’t say a word to him without him taking offense to it. He’s overly sensitive to everything I say no matter how benign. I don’t even have to be talking directly to him and he somehow takes offense. I’m getting really tired of him and his oversensitivity. He is a security guard here and he pours the coffee during meals. I know that I’m not beautiful, but, this is ridiculous.

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I say with with great sadness - " yes, life really is a popularity contest."

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I certainly don’t get the looks I got when I was thin. But I’m not mistreated bc of my weight.

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These are common attributes among young adults. Spending the time in mature environment removes any obstacle to connect with other people.

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If you’re in a profession where beauty is completely irrelevant to the job (e.g. accounting), average-looking people are also deemed as more competent than beautiful people. It’s a double-edged sword, but generally an advantage to be beautiful.

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Idk… I’m like, stunningly beautiful and I still get treated poorly.

I suppose it really depends on who we surround ourselves with. Are they assholes? Then they will probably treat us poorly.

It shouldn’t matter what someone’s appearance looks like. If they are a dick then they probably will act like a dick and be generally very dickish, ya know?

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Of course … are you jealous?

In all seriousness, looks do give the ability for more interest, hence more attention, hence some advantages. However there are many many “unattractive” people who have done very well for themselves despite their appearance. I would say that unattractive people have to work beyond that particular “hurdle” the same way people who rise from the ghetto to have successful careers do, or anyone else with physical ailments and disabilities. What you can accomplish is not limited by the way you look. The only ones who think it is are unsuccesful, miserable people whose attention wouldn’t be welcomed anyhow.

It takes a certain amount of effort to maintain an attractive appearance. Cleanliness, hair, clothes, access to exercise and quality food. Many of these require money. In fact, obesity is more common in lower socio-economic circles than higher ones. Mostly due to the wealthier having better access to exercise, leisure time in which to exercise, and freedom from having to rely on cheap, unhealthy food.

Therefore people can infer that attractiveness could mean the person lives a certain lifestyle, has a certain background, and has money or access to money. Thus people could have a more favorable attitude toward attractive people based on a “filling in the blanks” syndrome. Do people who are better-dressed get treated more favorably? I’d say yes, for the same reasons above.

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