Do you still want to get married: poll

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Continuing the conversation from

  • Yes, I want to get married one day
  • No, I will stay single/free
  • I am married/ partner / conjoint
  • No, but I want kids
  • Yes, if it happens one day sure

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I’ve been married before, lasted all of six months before it crashed and burned, but I’m not turned off on the idea of marriage. I’d like to marry again if I find the right woman.

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really six months? :slight_smile:
It is already difficult to live with ‘normal’ people, anybody different than yourself + imagine on this illness, symptoms and health. You know?

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I never told my current hubby anything, didn’t have to, he could see for himself, I am what I am. Which is good, because we’re
2 peas in a pod.

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Yeah, I had a psychotic break four months into our marriage, and she lost her patience with the recovery process. She couldn’t see herself spending the rest of her life living like that.

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I am sorry =( at least now you are functional I guess? Good luck! :slight_smile:

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I think maybe the reason I fell flat on my face with women, is because I never wanted a relationship. At least not in a realistic sense.

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Im married but Id rather be alone

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I just don’t know anymore. I find the idea of a single life very tantalizing at this point, being able to live however I want. I was talking to my mom about my dream for the future and she warned me “you may have someone else making decisions with you at that point” and the idea made me somewhat unhappy. I’ve spent so long suffering and hating my life that the idea of having to settle or compromise on my dreams to accommodate someone else has become deeply unappealing to me.

But if I find the one, then that’s that I suppose.

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That is completely irrelevant in my opinion. ;(

Partnership is equality, even though it has ups and downs and compromise, but it is something nice you know? When you meet someone you get along with, you’ll still have your freedom, space and stuff. You’ll fight and stuff but in the end you know when you need something, you are not alone. It is nice to make decisions with another person too. When you meet someone you like/love/get along with, making compromises is like nothing of a burden either.

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What do you hope will happen by staying in a relationship you’d rather not be in?

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I am not sure I understand ?

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Well I love him but I want to be left alone its kinda doesnt make sense at all I asked for a separation and he refuses so hes trying to give me space to see if the feelings pass I didn’t feel this way until i took a turn for the worse

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I feel like I could never be able to sustain and maintain a successful relationship. I also feel that maybe sometimes I “wanted” a relationship, but I thought I was missing out on something.

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I will stay single, I have always failed at relationships, it would be very rare for me to find someone, first I don’t go any where to meet anyone and it would have to be someone that could just accept me for who I am and how I live, otherwise I would just get sick of it

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Feelings are more honest than our brain thinks. The heart just goes along for the ride.

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Been there, done that. And I don’t want to do it again.

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I was married once for 12 years. He was very controlling but I loved him very much. I still do, as a matter of fact, although I am well over it and don’t think about him very much. He is my children’s father.

As far as getting married again? Highly unlikely. I checked “yes, if it happens, sure” but I am not optimistic. I don’t take very good care of myself, I am lazy, MI, broke, in my late 40’s and live with my elderly father. How’s that for a Match profile? lol

Maybe if I can get done with school, get my head straight, start showering daily, combing my hair and become gainfully employed, it may happen. Right now, I got my cat :slight_smile:

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I suppose so. Only if she would change her mind.

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I haven’t had a girlfriend since highschool. I enjoy being single. I think it’s weird to share your space with just one person and sleep next to them and everything. Makes you weak in my opinion because when they’re not there, you feel alone whether you admit it or not. The way I see it, no one can be complete as long as you rely on someone and relationships are all about relying on someone.

I’m not completely opposed to relationships though. Love is not just relying on someone, sex also plays a big part. Right now I’m not sexually active because I don’t enjoy one night stands anymore, so maybe I’ll have a relationship sometime with someone I love because sex is just a way of expressing love. Kind of sounds bad that I just want a relationship as sex, but I don’t just see it as a physical activity for pleasure. It’s all about being in sync with someone you love. I just love more than one person, and unfortunately because of relationships, one night stands hurt people because they expect a relationship. Marrying someone would not work for me because my feelings about people change so much that it probably wouldn’t last long… and once again I find it weird to spend all your time with just one person, or even most of it with one person over other people who love you as well.

I don’t think anyone enjoys being alone because of mental illness, I think that mental illness just makes people realize that we aren’t meant to be with one other person forever.

Personally I enjoy living with roommates and if it wasn’t look so badly upon to live with your parents at an older age I wouldn’t mind living with my parents every once and a while as well. I’ve found that I grow the most with different roommates. I always get along well with any roommate I have because I’m always willing to learn from them and let them change my perception of the world even if just for a short period of time. Which brings me back to relationships making you weak… who’s going to be stronger in this world, someone who lives and shares everything with one person, or someone who lives and shares everything with many people?

We are social creatures, were not built to live with one person for our whole lives.

Edit: This wasn’t meant to be aimed at any one in particular, I accidentally hit reply on a post instead of the thread, just my personal thoughts on marriage and relationships.

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