Too often I am silent, thinking it doesn’t matter when it would be nice if it did matter.
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Same here. I’m not very assertive.
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It sort of depends on what I want and what I need.
Sometimes I speak up and other times I let things go.
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Law of the jungle. If you don’t stake a claim on it, someone else will. Part of getting my last promotion was making it clear that I wanted it, scaring off a few of the more timid who also wanted it, and then rolling over the rest who stepped up to compete.
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People have described me as timid.
I don’t speak up much, don’t debate , avoid drama and disagreement.
I speak up for the animals and environment by not eating them.
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I tend to speak up but even so, I don’t usually get what I want because other people are usually smarter than me and can talk me out of what I want if that is their wish.
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Not often enough. I’m bad at settint boundaries, and when I finally do, I’m not assertive enough, and get rolled over anyway
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Id say i tended not to much of the time. I mean I never asked for toys growing up, guess thats why i had none, zero, or close to it, while friends had virtual toy stores. Nobody ever asked if i wanted any either.
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I use to let people walk all over me. It was hard for me to speak up because I had little self worth but I started doing it. At first it was awkward, and I didn’t have much confidence but it got easier with time and I got better at it. Now I always speak up when necessary, but not in a rude or argumentative way, just an assertive way.
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I’m classic passive-aggressive at times, but I’m working on it. Quite often, I’ll blow something off and tell myself it’s not worth arguing about. But later I’ll find I’m getting pissed off about it, and I have to say something
I’m trying to eliminate that middle ground, and simply say what I want and need. It does take time and effort
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I rarely speak up. I just don’t think anyone other than my husband and daughter care what I think. Even with them I don’t always speak up.
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No, I used to pre sz, now I’m shy and scared, Im learning to speak up for myself when doctors are mean and dismissive or tell me the med they’re gonna prescribe me “has no side effects”
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I dont want much since having sz but I argue with Drs about meds. Sometimes they get mad and transfer me to another Dr.
Yes, I speak up for what I want. It doesn’t happen frequently though, only when it’s important.
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