I have great difficulties to have human relations which is why I spent a lot of my time alone or riding my bicycle, what about you?
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Its due to Sz…!!! Chemical imbalance…!!! I live lonely with parents no friends so social circle…
No work no study… !!!
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The two of you sound like you are alone and wondering why.
I didn’t have many friends (sometimes one) for many years. But I think I always had somebody to be close with-- like my mother, father, brothers, and grandparents. These people should count as relationships too and they can be very important. As for friendships that are not family, these come when you start talking on the phone and are willing to do a few things for people. I met most of my friends through the mental health system. I believe if you want or need friendships you will find people who also want friendship.
To start with, you need to participate. And if you think you like someone, I recommend exchanging phone numbers.
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ive always been baffled by the intricacies of human interaction but ive come to find it enjoyable despite being clueless. like i dont understand but i still have fun with it
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I don’t talk very much anymore, which is pretty much what you have to do to make and keep friends.
I’m also always struggling with my mind, whether it’s with anxiety or paranoia or rumination, which makes it difficult to be present for friendships.
Because of this I tend to socially isolate. It’s just easier being alone.
I’m not happy with the way things are, but it is what it is.
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Those were both very good comments by korieve and Lolabean. Thank you. You understand why you are alone. By seeing and expressing it so clearly I think you are coping very well. Perhaps the first step is to put it in writing. I don’t believe the symptoms of schizophrenia are immutable.
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I’m close with my family but outside of it have had trouble making close friendships pretty much my whole life. They just seem so transient. As far as boyfriends I’ve only had one for three months and I’m 28. I’m too depressing and never do anything fun and anxious and self absorbed. I never have anything to talk about. I thought I was getting over my driving phobia but it seems to be slowly coming back. Maybe if I wasn’t so scared of driving I could go out and hangout with others. I’ve actually met a lot of people from church and school over the past two years but I’m not close to any of them.
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@korieve Do you mean you struggle with comprehending things? This is a problem I have noticed when I am in a situation involving small talk etc. I end up just nodding in agreement to try and end the interaction, as sometimes I just do not get what the other person is saying.
It’s ok with the MH people at the clinic as I just ask them to repeat what they say, but you cannot do that I don’t think with small talk.
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My problem is that I don’t have many opportunities for social interaction. I don’t enjoy saying “Hi how are you doing?” to strangers. I know it’s unlikely to lead to anything deeper. I guess I will sometimes anyway. Maybe eventually it will help me get a little bit less awkward.
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I do. I find it hard to smile and talk to people, even though deep down I want to talk to them
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well, partially that (my processing time when it comes to speech has been slow since birth i guess autism is the reason) but also just that im horrible at reading non verbal cues or knowing when to start/stop speaking and i tend to cut people off without realizing because im oblivious
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Short answer is yes. I have a very hard time finding what to say, usually I don’t have much I feel like saying.
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