i do. I try hard to be nice etc etc but I feel like that is what I am getting in return especially from those close to me.
judy
I feel that there are always going to be thoughts like that. But you have to remember, having a mental illness is no different than a physical illness. Would you be ashamed of someone if they had cancer, diabetes, etc? Personally, I wouldn’t be, so I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed of someone with a mental disorder.
There’s a terrible stigma in the way, I know, but I think we just all have to remember that a disorder we have does not define who we are. People love you for you, not for your struggles.
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For that matter, I am ashamed of myself.
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Not at all, not that i care in the first place
kelnugget. well said and thanks judy
I don’t really think any ones ashamed of me unless its my grandmaw on my dads side. My parents,well who i call my parents, my dad is dead, are more, i guess nervous around me. My momma told me its because they don’t know what I’ll do cause she says I’m unpredictable. I think my step-dad is too afraid to look anything up on schizophrenia. He grew up in the old days when that movie Psycho came out. The first version. He’s even told me that he thinks of me as Norman Bates. I’m not even that close to my mom like he was & besides that Norman Bates had disassociative identity disorder. I have schizophrenia with paranoia. I think he thinks schizophrenia means split mind like the rest of those old fu(k3rs think. As far as i know, he hasn’t even read none of the books i have on schizophrenia & most, if not all of them, are up to date. I also think he thinks I’m violent. I think he’s got a guilty conscience about the way he treated me when he was drinking, well how treated all three of us: me, my mom, and my brother. If i knew that he would invade my privacy like this, i would have owned up to the truth if he had ever hit any of us. Instead i told the people that was asking no, that he didn’t. If i had told the people that he had they probably would have either ran him crazy, try to make him f(k up & go to jail, or he wold have had a shorter life. It pisses me off that i didn’t tell the truth!
I don’t think they are ashamed, but I think they look on me with a pitiful type of emotion. like helpless me. I feel that way too sometimes.
My father and brother can be downright insensitive when it comes to my suffering/illness.
Just this morning, my father was telling me to have more willpower when battling my paranoia - he fails to realize that what I have is a medical, biological based illness.
Meds is what is needed, not willpower!
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Not my family, but a few of my acquaintences.
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They arent ashamed of me.
They are very happy with me when I get things done like cleaning the house planting and trimming shrubs around the house.
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No, they tell me they are proud of me and give me compliments on what I’ve accomplished. They tell me I’m nice, funny, and good company. But they will also get after me for being irresponsible, or for making bad decisions. They treat me like I’m normal and my life like it’s pretty normal. But yeah, they get justifiably mad if I put off something like getting a haircut and my hair gets long. Something they get mad at is my bad habit of procrastinating.
But they won’t give up on me.
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Yea they ashamed of me ,and they should be.
Such is life.
I often wonder but think a lot is more my shame/self stigmatisation of myself being transferred onto others.
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I used to be highly ashamed of myself… and I would then think my family was ashamed of me.
but I’ve come to see that no… no one in my family is ashamed of me. I have some family that doesn’t like me… but I have a feeling even if I was healthy… they wouldn’t like me anyway.
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I think that you are really cool man.
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I just get those “looks” that pretty much says all that no one ever will say outloud.
Frustrates me more than when they talk “around” me, avoiding saying anything that is obviously about me and how I’m doing.
Same tactics used for kids.