Perhaps it is a part of recovery to stop caring what they think. But sometimes I feel my friends abandoned me after my psychosis because they thought I was “gone” when I was actually here the whole time. The thought of this makes me angry. Why would they give up on me(asking this not because i don’t know the answer but out of frustration)? How could they treat me this way? And I know they feel totally justified in doing it, because I’m a “scary schizophrenic.” They could have waited out my sickness. But instead they gave up and moved on. Those inconsiderate jerks. It will take me a while to forgive them.
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Yeah , sz people are not cool to hang along for regular people. I am haveing hard time with that also.
Sz is a hard one, since it tends to be lots of loneliness. I get a bit of comfort here on the forum. I do not know for how long I could manage it,but thanks to everyone for shareing.
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I don’t care if my old friends abandon me. Sz is a scary and life altering condition. I have become ‘boring’ and unpredictable.
I’m looking 4ward to making new friends who I will tell about this and accept it nevertheless.
I don’t judge any old friends for abandoning me. I understand where they are comimg from, sort of.
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I had one friend dump me due to mental illness. I figure she wasn’t a real friend.
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This sort of happened to me
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The problem I have is that it’s evident now that my schizophrenia is never going to end. After nearly 31 years of that if others can’t handle that fact then I have to let them go.
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This is very common I’m afraid. It seems like this happens to 90% of people.
How old were you when you first became unwell?
I left my friends alone for a long time when I was first unwell as I was aware my functioning was not there and I think that helped a lot.
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I don’t think its black and white as you make it out. My friends have never treated me differently for having SZA. There’s maybe one or two people that do look at me a bit differently but overall they are accommodating.
A few people I’ve met from the internet have made comments like “you don’t seem like a crazy person”. Some people (friends of friends) I’ve met IRL are very surprised when I explain to them the details etc. I think if you can follow conversational queues, etiquette, are polite etc and have a certain level of awareness people don’t really care. Its when mental health issues impair those kind of everyday social abilities that people without MH issues feel uncomfortable.
Or like wise if you keep going on about your problems in detail to the wrong types - people don’t know how to respond and may judge you.
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I was 20 years old
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I’m struggling with something similar. My physical health had a lot of issues and my friends weren’t there for me. It’s been very hard to cope with.
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No dude, my friends wrote me off immediately when I became delusional in 2014. I don’t have friends anymore.
I suspect that will change some day, but my recovery is a slow and steady one.
The thing is I was a raving lunatic when they wrote me off, and while I’m normal now, I’ve lost so much credit with them from losing my mind that there’s no way of recovering. They would think me always a moment away from being at rock bottom again I’m sure.
In reality I haven’t had an episode in five years, and I’ve only been sick for nine. I’m gonna be looking for new friends soon.
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Almost all of my friends went on with their lives. They have wives, children some moved abroad, some went to college. It’s what happens to normies, they meet someone, create families, go on with their studies. It’s us that are stuck!
So I don’t judge them.
I miss having someone to talk to though. But sz is a never ending loop so there is not much to get from there. I try to forget about my issues as much as I can which is hard having symptoms and all.
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Ma i would not be interested in being friends with most of my old friends who “broke up “ with me because i don’t work and I’m not successful or ambitious.
There were some girls when I was teen who hung out with boys who bullied me and called me ugly with hate etc and if they were real friends they would have stopped being friends with the boys and defended me.
I loved those girls but clearly it was never truly mutual and disrespectful too.
A couple girls when I was younger teen had me in invisible restraints like a leash n dominating me hatefully and maliciously.
Unfortunately the nicer group I hung out beautifully with before were no longer with me then but i was better with the other guys.we watched horror movies together .I avoid watching such now.love it but don’t want to be afraid.
I loved the guys I went to college with as even older teen but I wasn’t myself super much and there was disrespect there.
I don’t go well with many people.
Definitely don’t want friends who restrain me to dominate me maliciously and force me to be with them when i don’t want to.
Don’t want friends who are disrespectful and don’t love me.
Don’t want friends who are too agressive and jealous and competitive.
I must feel comfortable with them and I like to feel I can trust them and good vibes.
I would love me some high quality friends.
I might have friends in spirit but not in person.
My “sister “ has so many friends n is socialite n has children and house n husband and career and everything yet she still hated on me and attacks me and suppresses me.
She treats me disgustingly.
I want nothing to do with her.
She’s always been horrible to me.
Maybe she is jealous because her mum my former stepmother said she loves me so much.
Anyway I want to get her n her husband n children n friends out of my life.
So disgusting behaviours.
Yucky people!
I don’t think i will ever have friends as such because it’s so difficult to make friends for me so old I am .
But there is a chick on Facebook who seems to want to be my friend.
She has a disgusting sister too.
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I think the nature of this illness is such that it is hard not to realize what the people around you are actually like. Narcissists become really easy to spot. Idealization is a red flag, and this effect wears off faster and faster each time it happens to me, now.
Most people aren’t that great. A huge red flag, regarding other people, for me, now, is them showing up in symptoms (auditories sounding like them, insertions seeming like them, or tardives reminding me of them). If they show up in symptoms, it is like an instant warning about them being shitty.
I was super isolated, when I developed positive symptoms in 2019, and I was already super isolated by then, and only saw my mother regularly. The other people that I talked to never visited, except my sister, once. I eventually cut off contact with them, when I realized that they didn’t care about me, and I saw a decrease in symptom severity (the number of delusions decreased a bit), after; I would strongly suggest that you guys evaluate your relationships, and cut off people that are wildly unfair to you.
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Thank you for the advice.
I intend to cut my disgusting “sister “ and her husband and children and friends out of my life.
The way they have treated me is unacceptable.
Last time I saw her she was fake and treated me horribly.
Unfortunately I’m living in her mother’s apartment and I’m afraid of ending up homeless.
I am definitely going to do what I can to get these people out of my life.
My “parents “ are bad to and for me but i will not entirely cut them of just try set more boundaries.
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I agree with you to a certain level, as each of us is different, had different experiences and reacts different to meds. So it is hard to put everyone i the same basket.
So yes people don’t care if you are able to act and react normally. In my good days I can interacts with old friends, but I have days when my meds symptoms woud make it difficult.
While on psyhosis is you are not yourself. Under meds you are not the same self.
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They proved that they weren’t your true friends after all. Find friends that will stick by you even in your darkest time’s.
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