Do you ever find that the emotions follow the thoughts?

The morning might have started off great, but I might jokingly say something … it might sound like a negative joke but after the day goes on I will feel sad for real ??

Like this topic I posted the other day When other people want to run away from you

It was supposed to be a joke I ended up feeling sad and unworthy.

And today I was talking about how cute my cousins baby is and quickly starting getting upset I don’t have one

Maybe your jokes made you realize things in your life that you’re unhappy with. I don’t think joking about your cousin’s baby made you want a baby. I think you already wanted one, and were joking as a way to cope with that feeling.

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No, the baby thing wasn’t a joke. But got emotional after thinking about how great it is she has a kid :confused:

Does this happen a lot? If not then I’d say it sounds normal.

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I never got my act together well enough to have a family. In a way that is kind of bitter to me, but it’s not the end of the world.

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Yeah i think it is ok too :thinking:

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It’s normal to feel broody Ish, please don’t be upset by this feeling, you could combat the sadness by spending more time with the baby; and thinking about the possibilities for the future !

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That was Aaron Beck’s theory. Aaron Beck perfected what is now known as CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy. He says something like this:
Thoughts generate feelings. Feelings generate actions.

So you may be right @anon80629714.

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Exactly! :slight_smile: Most emotions we have are a result of our thoughts. We are not always aware of what these thoughts are, but if we practice and try to get to know our patterns, we can become aware of them and eventually change them.

@anon80629714, I’d say that if you don’t feel depressed, this sounds pretty normal. If you feel that you might be getting depressed, try to use any coping techniques you think might help and be extra nice to yourself for while. Don’t push yourself too hard, and say good things to yourself.

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I know but I feel sad sometimes because I’d love to have kids. I want to adopt but I don’t have support to do it. I can’t expect my mum to care for the child. That’s not right.

Plus I need to have a relationship to have one :joy:

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When anything doesn’t to be manage, then left it to our parents. Jo hoga dekha jayega. They are responsibile for us. I know they don’t always provide what we want. Majboori ka naam mahatma Gandhi. Right.

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