My mum is giving me the guilt trip. I don’t want to go on holiday with my brother. He told me he wants to go there sit there and drink while me and mum do the excursions and travel but I mean I’m not comfortable with going with him. I’m trying to distance myself as it is from him cos he tells me every time I comment on his drinking he’ll drink more. It really makes me sick.
I can imagine that causes distress. I do not know your situation, but it doesnt sound like a trip that would do you well. At all. And guilt-tripping someone is not okay. I’ve forever been sensitive to that, and now I turned quite “unpolite”. If something is not good for me or kid, I refuse. If the other person can’t handle that, that is their problem. If they start to manipulate or do a temper tantrum, I kindly but acutely walk out of the conversation. For me, this works to protect my mental health.
So I would recommend to not go, unless there is some very important reason to ignore your own wishes.
What would happen if you go for what you yourself want?
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No you don’t. You’re an adult and free to make your own decisions.
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You don’t have to go @anon25873142. I’m sorry your mom is giving you a guilt trip.
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She’s not happy I decided I want to go on holiday with my partner instead of with them. They’re not going because of me 
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Sounds like your brother could be an alcoholic @anon25873142
No you don’t have to go
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He’s got a problem , but he can’t see it’s a problem.
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Yesterday I was talking about trying to make healthier choices about my eating and he said who cares about health it’s Friday you should eat … he doesn’t care about his own health I can’t do anything.
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You do not have to go. I’m glad you are taking care of yourself by standing your ground and going with your partner. If your brother drinks and makes you very uncomfortable it makes perfect sense you don’t want to go
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