thank you— i will try to look for actual help once the rona virus is over.
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I don’t think you need to over pathologize every little human behavior. This sounds like typical crush stuff. Try to turn your mind away from him. It may take time, maybe even months, but it will pass.
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Its pathological when it intereferes with his life. Erotomania is a real psychiatric disease, a form of delusion that can be found in sz. My erotomania stopped 100% with the right meds:
It’s weird. I remember reading that page before and could have swore I read something about it being a way to cope or avoid childhood trauma.
Now, I can’t find it on the page at all.
I don’t know about other causes of erotomania other than schizophrenia and psychotic disorders.
And we just don’t know the causes of those either.
drat…
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Its been almost a year now — and even though rationally i understand the “problem”, my mind keeps telling me its real if that makes any sense to you.
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Mine lasted for years and I was very aware of it, but it didn’t make the pain lessen much at all.
Maybe it has lessened now, but I still have to manage it.
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jesus christ! 
I understand, I just think it’s a more common human experience than you’re attributing to it. It takes me varying amounts of times to get over people. One time it took 1 year for me to stop thinking about someone who was no longer around. It must be harder for you to be around this person – maybe you should distance yourself, or have a frank conversation with him and ask him to help you distance. That way you will achieve peace sooner.
I was particularly frustrated and pissed at the psych evaluation I had (which is why I haven’t gone back) because they didn’t seem to think it was a big deal enough to help me out. At least, they didn’t seem to understand the way I feel is pretty severe.
People assume because you don’t self-harm that you must not be ‘that bad’ and kind of just shrug you off.
I personally hope people have my experience so they can not feel the same anymore and think, “You know… I wish I could go back to before this happened.” And I would be like, “Yep! Good luck with that.”
i think that would create an awkward situation with someone I genuinely care about in my day to day life (regardless of my delusions of him and i meant to be together) and i feel like it’s not fair to him, for me to come in and muddle his life with my mental problems, which i think would only lead to more after opening that can of worms.
Im not irrational about this — i feel like i understand my problem, now i’m just trying to fix it.
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100% agree on that
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Well maybe you need to be the one to put your foot down and just tell him you need space without saying why
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I had erotomania for years and years. Specifically from 2008 until this year. It is really not a nice feeling when you think those kind of things especially when you never find out the truth. Because they you continue to believe those things perhaps. I didn’t tell anyone for years either cos I was so shy about it. Then I actually got psychosis in 2016 and 2018 and he was in both. :((
So yea I don’t think it is good for the mind to leave such delusions as delusions.
I mean did he tell you ever that he is not interested? I know he is in a relationship but still I think to hear those words would be powerful
Because nothing feels better than to hear it directly. It stops you from stringing along.
yeah, we’ve talked about it briefly but not in dept — i’ve never really told him the dept of my feelings, just left at “crush”
bottom line is, it’s in my head and no matter how much i believe it to be real, its not…and that’s what im trying to lean on
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no — this is my first time seeking help/talking about it. When i came across the term erotomania, it resonated with my feelings/emotions over the past year and i brushed it off. Today i came back to it, and related even more to it…
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I had erotomania about an ex fiancee I had a few years before my psychotic break.
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