So I tried explaining to a friend and apologizing for my behavior and sent him a link to the “Flat Affect/Blunted Affect” that caused some disagreement between us. He’s the one who told me I shouldn’t use my symptoms as an excused. Well his response to the link to the articly was that it was “perfectly normal to him” I keep feeling like he is trying to convince me I’m not schizophrenic simply because he doesn’t like my symptoms. Like I don’t know him personally, met him a few times but don’t remember, so his opinion doesn’t matter to me. I was just wondering if y’all thought this was rude or not?
It’s probably a moo point if you don’t really know him well. Like a cows opinion. His opinion doesn’t matter. It’s moo.
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It’s just quite annoying. I asked him last night why he was even bothering talking to me while I was like that and he said “thats a damn good question” like please dismiss me more! He offers good writing advice but constantly undermines my problems by pretending they arent ■■■■ and that hes been through so much worse depsite the fact he refuses to tell me anything about it other than “i aint never met anybody crazier than myself” and im just like… yeah right.
Most people aren’t familiar with the nature of schizophrenia.
When I first got sick, my brother would tell me to just stop what I was experiencing. He thought I just made it up and that I just needed more willpower to force it to stop. It made things stressed between us for a while.
Many people would tell me how crazy they were, but I just nodded and humored them. They probably wouldn’t believe me if I told them what I’ve seen.
My mom thought the same thing when I would tell her about everything when I was little. So when I grew up and realized I was delusional as a result I thought that I could just will everything away, like I could stop it if I wanted to. Except of course I couldn’t, so I just felt very weak and incapable. I should’ve known things wouldn’t work out like that.
It’s tough when people don’t understand 
That’s why I just don’t share with anyone except the doctor/therapist, who won’t judge or anything. (At least not in front of you anyways hahaha)
Feels like this guy is trying to place himself up on a pity pedestal to shut me up. And thats not ■■■■■■■ cool. Looks like I won’t have any real conversations with this guy anymore! moving on!
Some friend he is, NOT.
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Ok now… to me… THAT is rude. I’ve had new comers in my life sort of dismiss my problems through lack of understanding and saying… “is it really that bad… can’t you just try harder?”
When I explain and educate it usually clears up the issue… they don’t play the “I’ve got one up on you” game. The one up game is RUDE and it’s meant to be undermining and demeaning.
I bet your a very good writer… I bet his either jealous or scared and his way of leveling the field is to undermine your confidence. I hope you find good writing advice from somewhere else. There are on-line writer forums… I’ve seen libraries with writer groups… it’s something to try.
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