When you are made to feel you can’t talk about your problems for fear of someone dismissively telling you to accentuate the positive.
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Generally speaking that’s not what happens here though. It’s generally supportive.
I just feel there’s an undercurrent of dismissiveness about the lack of help and support I’ve had. As though some are saying " So f*cking what" .
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It’s so hard to talk to people and open up without someone saying there’s always someone out there who has it worse. No one has the right to put suffering on some percentage scale or something.
A heart attack, depression , diabetes , it’s still suffering to the person who experiences it. Not better or worse.
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Are you talking about this site? Generally speaking, I think people mostly get that attitude when they are frustrated with someone. Do you think they could be frustrated by something you do? Is it a recurring pattern when you talk about your problems or is it an infrequent thing (or limited to a couple of people)?
Possibly. I think half the problem is that people are dismissive because people are ill informed. Understanding of the kind of problems is probably at the stage schizophrenia was a couple of decades ago.
Also it’s something outside of the psychosis/sz realm and naturally people are very much focused on that.
Hence if I am seen as being on a depot I’m seen as getting adequate support/treatment, and just moaning for no reason.
As for it being a recurring thing-it seems to be here that there’s such a response. I haven’t had it elsewhere. Most people are sympathetic elsewhere to the fact I have had inadequate treatment ,and how it might have impacted on me .
I am not saying it is everyone here but even a few people with that kind of dismissive,glib “concentrate on your strong points” attitude can be dispiriting.
It’s as though people think I am making no effort when in fact I’m doing the best that I can given the effect of the problems.
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