I recently started dating an amazing girl, and she loves to cook. She’s making me dinner tomorrow night, and I’m really excited, but I keep worrying that she’s going to poison me and hurt me. Logically, I know she’d never do that, but I’m still really worried. I want to just enjoy the dinner like a normal person, and I want to stop worrying about this. She doesn’t know I’m schizoaffective, and I’m not in a rush to tell her (though I will eventually), and I don’t know how to get over this thought. I don’t know if I should talk to her about it, or just ignore it and hope for the best. I don’t want her to think I’m crazy or stupid, which is exactly how I feel.
I would suggest talking to her about it. Speaking from experience? holding off could make things fall apart when you’ve gotten too attached for it to be easy to break cleanly.
If she can’t accept you, then she isn’t worth the effort. But if she can, and will go out of her ay to make you feel better? Its worth the risk of some mild heart ache. Better to know now than wait until you feel like you cant live without her.
What about if you cooked with her, then you could see there is no poison going in your food.
She’s not going to poison you, that’s a paranoid delusion.
Do you have anything that could decrease the paranoia, like a benzo. You might be getting paranoid because of the stress of the upcoming date.
Hope you are able to have a wonderful time and great food!
It sounds like this girl is worth fighting for. Don’t give in to your paranoia. Try to have a good time.
I like the cooking with her idea, it works on 2 levels is bonding and sure to win some brownie points but you will know she isnt trying to poison you instead of worrying the whole dinner making yourself akward like i do…i vote for @anon84763962 's idea
I ended up cooking with her. Once we were together, I wasn’t really even thinking about her poisoning the food. I was just focused on having a good time. It turned out to be a really fun night.