Dating with schizophrenia

[anon55055794]

Yes it happens but lately I have been pretty obsessed unfortunately

[anon55055794]

Off topic. Regarding dating and romantic feelings, I guess everybody here on this forum knows what happened to me. But Im not allowed to mention it, because then I will be suspended. But I don’t think that theres more romantic love for me, so sex is all I have left.
Then again sex is not everything, now that Im not sick with the flu I will start to hang out with my friends again. And my son. And go to art galleries. That kind of things. And exercising.

[anon70814080]

@anon15119022

I want to meet someone new but im scared. And paranoid. Im afraid that ill just be used.

It didn’t work out for me, but it might for you. You’ve just got to dive right into the dating pool. Set boundaries and deal breakers if you’re worried about being used.

[anon70814080]

@Speedy

It feels like this illness makes me belong in the garbage pile. I know I sound negative and very harsh on myself. But that’s what society does to all us men.

Society does this to women too. Ableism is alive and well. The government doesn’t help things any. I’m in Canada. Even if I did find a man to marry, maybe someone with SZ, the government would claw back the amount we both get, sending us further into poverty. Or if some non-SZ person wanted me, the government would claw back what I get, making me a burden to them. It’s like getting punished for no good reason.

Women have it easier when it comes to dating. Every woman I’ve met with a mental illness dates or has a partner.

I don’t think this is true. My onset started in 1998 or 1999, when I was 24 (about three bad things set it off). When I tried dating while living with this illness, in my 30s, no man wanted me once I explained to them that I suffered from SZ and wasn’t medicated and couldn’t hold a job. I tried to explain the side effects I was trying to avoid. I was very high functioning even without the meds, but was still considered trash.

I also didn’t want children at all, (bio or adopted), and lost dates with a lot good “family-type” guys.

Sometimes it would be the fact I wasn’t working that ruined my chances. A lot of men don’t want a woman who can’t work. This isn’t the 1950s where I can become a housewife. Homemakers are viewed as lazy now, especially by other women…(or maybe working women get jealous of rich housewives…I don’t know).

I’m okay in the looks department, but this never seemed to help. When I dated, while being on meds, I once got smacked in the face for not telling a man sooner that I had SZ. He got super angry and accused me of hiding things and getting free meals (after three weeks of dating). If I told a man about the illness too fast, I’d get dumped. Another guy said that he would never marry a SZ person, but if I wanted a fling he was okay with that.

I’ve got more horror stories, but I’ll stop here.

[Speedy]

Thank you for sharing your story!

I’m sorry you got treated badly for having sz. The stigma sucks.

@anon70814080

Even if I did find a man to marry, maybe someone with SZ, the government would claw back the amount we both get, sending us further into poverty. Or if some non-SZ person wanted me, the government would claw back what I get, making me a burden to them. It’s like getting punished for no good reason.

Yes, I can’t study or work part-time. If they see me getting a tiny bit better, they would take my disability away from me. It sucks because you get stuck in life.

@anon70814080

in my 30s, no man wanted me once I explained to them that I suffered from SZ and wasn’t medicated and couldn’t hold a job. I tried to explain the side effects I was trying to avoid. I was very high functioning even without the meds, but was still considered trash.

I’ve lost empathy for people after I got sick. For the rumors and ridicule. I was ostracized for having this illness.

@anon70814080

When I dated, while being on meds, I once got smacked in the face for not telling a man sooner that I had SZ. He got super angry and accused me of hiding things and getting free meals (after three weeks of dating)

What a moron! I can’t believe how some people think of this illness.

Again thank you for sharing. I guess we are all on the same boat here, men and women.