Im really frustrated. My pdoc’s pa prescribed paxil for me for social anxiety and my dad flipped out because he wasnt included in the decision and demanded that we talk to my pdoc first. Im mad because it takes 6 weeks to see my pdoc and in that time the medication would be fully working. I suffer from social anxiety and have for years and it prevents me from doing things that id like to do. Im really just venting but i appreciate being able to vent to you guys. Ive been with this pdoc and his assistant for 6 years and they havent done me wrong id think there would be some trust there.
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How old are you?? I don’t think it’s your dad’s business what the doctor prescribes. Also your doc knows better.
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Im 38 151515151515
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As I said it’s not your dad’s business, especially at that age. Hopefully paxil will help you!
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I appreciate it, i hope so too!
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Both my father and brother like to treat me as a child.
Listen to your doctor
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Is your dad your power of attorney?
Yes they (mom and dad) have guardianship over me and overall he is awesome really helps me with paperwork and insurance. But as stated earlier by another really treats me like a child and is all over me about my treatment not taking my experience into account.
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Well if your parents are your guardians then that’s a different story.
But they should still treat you like an adult
Ok. I understand why he wants to be spoken to regarding decisions. It’s his job. However, he shouldn’t treat you like a child
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That can be incredibly frustrating. I understand both sides here. New meds can have different reactions, and if you are an adult who has been put into custodianship, I would guess they have seen some bad reactions to meds from you before. It is also right before Christmas, so if you have a bad reaction, the ER will be super crowded and full of new staff who don‘t have enough seniority to get holidays off.
For someone who isn’t actively experiencing your anxiety, it seems safer to wait a couple weeks than to try something new knowing you won’t get optimal care if it goes badly.
That said, you are the one who has to live with the anxiety while you wait. And that can suck extremely badly. In my experience, symptoms get worse when you know you could be getting a treatment, but are unable to access it.
If you have been safe with yourself for a while, the next step should be letting you have more say in your own care, to give you more chances to manage your own life again. The ultimate goal of treatment should be maximizing your independence. I don’t know when your last episode was. I would say 3-6 months with no dangerous behaviors would be a reasonable time to ask for more responsibility/freedom.
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I like to play a doctor on television.
I wonder if you could calmly and respectfully have a conversation with your dad, where you ask him to get the prescription filled, but not pick it up until after the holidays are over. If you are able to communicate that you understand his point of view, and take his concerns seriously, it could demonstrate to him that you are thinking more clearly. And then you would only be waiting 6 days instead of 6 weeks. It could be a win for both of you.
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I really appreciate that breakdown ninjastar. I have been on the right side of treatment for six years. My dad thinks that exercise and meditation will cure my anxiety. This anxiety complaint is one that i have had for years i dont understand when its ok to try medication. He treats his own anxiety unsuccessfully as he is always anxious about me or my mom with anxiety because he decided not to take medication for his own issues. My anxiety is stopping me from exercising. I teach brazilian jiu jitsu and work out with my students for what is pretty intense exercise. My anxiety has been a roadblock in the way of teaching and exercising daily for years now. I get in the gym but rarely as i spin out with anxiety when its time to go.
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Id love to have a conversation about this but he becomes very angry and defensive if i question these things so i stay quiet to keep the peace. Im gonna have to wait for my appointment with my pdoc, where he is going to say im not meditating every day or exercising every day so im not listening to my treatment team when most days i do meditate and exercise just not everyday where if i could control my anxiety i would be exercising every day. Meditating i have a hard time with because i have done it for years daily for alot of the time but it didnt help my anxiety i still suffer and i wonder when a medication is ok.
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That can be hard. I hope you and your dad learn how to communicate more equally about your treatment. Do you guys do family counseling? It might help him listen if you have a mediator to help articulate.
I know I sometimes struggle with this with my own child. I remember the impulsive and dangerous things he has done in the past, and sometimes fail to acknowledge the growth and progress he has made towards thinking before he acts. At family counseling, his therapist can break down his points more objectively, and help me see his side a bit better. Since she is an adult, I tend to trust her judgment more. She also advocates my thoughts to him, in a way he can understand better. My child is only 16, so it is a bit different. But your dad might listen more if a trusted third party also agrees with you.
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We dont do family counceling i think that would be a great thing
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Get off the TV, you ankle biter!!! We’ve all told you not to play up there!
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That’s very frustrating. I’m sorry that y’all are butting heads on the decision for Paxil. I hope y’all can work something out soon. I understand wanting to help that anxiety.
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I know it really helps my family. I hope you guys can figure it out. You sound like you all love each other. That’s good. Learning to communicate effectively is helpful for everyone.
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