I’m a carer for an elderly relative and tomorrow we’re going for the results of a liver scan.
This elderly relative has told me they’ll refuse treatment if it’s cancer. Which it probably will be, as they’ve had an operation to remove a tumour already.
I’ve finally reached carer burnout. I don’t mind being a carer for someone who wants to live. But I don’t care anymore.
M sorry you are dealing with this. I have been there also. You are not alone. It helped me to avoid thinking about it whenever I could. Once my family members were already dead, I could unpack how much it all sucked. Until then, it didn’t help to acknowledge how hard it was. It just made it seem harder.
I’m glad your relative is ok. Can someone give you a little break for some self care, even if it’s to just get out and do something fun? That might help a lot. Like one day a week for you might be very beneficial, even if you no longer have to worry about your relative losing their will to fight to live.