Sure, my parents never really screwed up my life. I mean we were poor, so we did Christmas & Birthdays late but I’ve never been into material possessions. They are just human, I have never felt unloved.
my parents tried. they didn’t know about the sexual abuse by a family friend until I was ten, after four years of abuse. and my brother was an out of control kid. for example he sawed the family couch in half. my mom worked two jobs both physically demanding including a maid job. my dad when he could work, worked as a buser or dishwasher. sometimes they both would be out of work for months once during Christmas time and the only gift I got that year was a cd from an uncle. but somehow they kept the lights one, a roof over our heads and our bellies full. I have no malice towards my parents, they made mistakes but they did try.
I am trying to forgive my Dad. He took me last year after the hospital let me out and I was homeless. I would be lying if I said I don’t love him because I do. None of that changes the past though. He was an alcaholic and emotionally abusive and neglectful toward me. I have 2 kids of my own (20 and 17) whom I showered with love and praise and who are very high functioning and balanced. I can’t even fathom treating my beautiful babies the way he treated me. He cut me so many times to the core. It seems worse now than it did when I was younger in sharp contrast to how I raised my kids. I have a bit of a hard heart. He will never take accountability or apologize. That’s not his ‘style’. I have to just get over it and try to appreciate that he quit drinking (2 years ago), treats me better now and that he took me in. He was a shytty Dad when I was younger. Oh well.