This is something I’ve been pretty confused about lately…a lot of days I’m not sure if I’m asexual or not. On one hand, I do still experience sexual urges fairly regularly. But I have no desire to act on them whatsoever and find physical sexual acts to be underwhelming and even unpleasant. (Though some of this partially may be to negative sexual events I experienced during psychotic episodes in the past) When I get the urges it makes me very irritated because it’s like my brain is in conflict with my body and I just want them to stop.
I’ve also never been sexually attracted to anyone. I’ve had lots of crushes, don’t get me wrong, I have developed feelings for guys just…I never wanted to be sexual with any of them. I think the sauciest my fantasies ever got was like…a back massage. So I’m still romantically attracted to guys, I just don’t really want to have sex with them. I don’t even find porn arousing, just sort of an amusing curiosity.
I’ve always been a firm advocate of not needing to put a label on sexuality just because I think things are all in shades of grey when it comes to it, but being asexual would be serious. There’s not that many asexual people out there and it would greatly narrow my choice of prospective partners. It would affect my ability to have a happy and normal relationship.
I don’t know. And it just adds onto the list of things that are making me avoid relationships right now and I don’t like that. Have any of you had sexuality struggles before?? What do you think?
When you really think about it Anna, being asexual solves a lot of potential problems. I mean you wouldn’t be chasing or stalking someone, raping them or even molesting children. If you are asexual, you really wouldn’t be hurting anyone. Because my sex drive is so darn high, there have been times in my life when I wished I was asexual. Just try to think of it that way, maybe. It may not be as “fun”, but if you are, you could be saving yourself a lot of headaches.
Your struggle is nearly exactly mine. I’ve been struggling with my sexuality for 6 years debating my previous held notions. I do now believe I’m homoromantic asexual meaning I like men romantically and that’s it. I do watch porn but when it comes to sex it’s so underwhelming, boring even.
I don’t see how I could avoid labeling it in this situation though. Most guys (my age anyways) wouldn’t be into a relationship where there was nothing sexual involved. (Not saying all guys care about is sex, but I mean it’s a normal part of relationships as far as I know)
So that’s something I feel I’d have to admit up front if a guy asked me out…what have you done in your relationships?
Well I’m a virgin, not technically, I was raped, but I’ve never been penetrated willingly… And my past relationships have been with men who were the same as I, not interested in anything sexual, but interested in the companionship. Right now I’m not in a relationship but I have a best friend, Mike, he’s super sweet, and he thinks of me like a sister.
There is a divide between my sexuality and my emotional life. I try to reconcile the two, but it hasn’t worked. One time I was taking up with this girl, and the woman on duty just handed me a handful of condoms.
Had sex, not much though. I hated it through and through. It was strange to me and i didn’t like it.
There are different types of asexuals, but the defining factor is they don’t wish to physically be with another person sexually. They just don’t like it at all. They can master yank though, they’re fine with that sometimes but sometimes they don’t even do that.
But what i really want is to not have sex organs at all and be pure energy. I’ve never talked to a woman where i could just see and hear her as just her, there is always other things in the way. And for that matter i’ve never spoken with a man either without the meat involved in different ways.
Would you suggest as a rape victim that the ancients death sentence for rape was right?
How long did the trauma go on? And was the actual experience meriting a death sentence in your opinion?
Weighing it all out as the victim who has been through it what would you suggest as a punishment, you be the judge here. If you had the power what would be the course of action to take?
I’m in a lesbian homo romantic relationship right now, and have been for 4 years. No sex. I have no sexual feelings because of both medication and religion. But, I am very happy in my relationship. My partner accepts the situation out of love.
You’re being mind controlled to be this way. You are not broken. You can be made normal like with the flip of a switch. They have demonstrated their ability to do this. Trust me, you are constantly in an altered state of consciousness and don’t even know it because you either never knew or have forgotten what it feels like to be normal. I am also struggling with this so don’t feel attacked in any way.
None of you cult psychiatry schizos know what it is like to feel normal. If you had a normal mind set, you would be able to see through the manufactured world view you are trapped in like the Matrix.
I am going to be attacked harshly for finally speaking my mind, and on another note I think pansdisease and I are the top two candidates for neo on this god forsaken forum.
suppose when you try it you’ll know.