I am, I have lived many years by myself, I do make a call a day to one person and I enjoy my psych clinics visits where I can talk about all kinds or matters, but still I am living alone with little connections to other people, sometimes I am just bored, which is why this forum is an excellent place to share opinions and views …
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Yes, definitely. Being alone was almost worse than my sza. I was alone for many years. This last time (10 years ago) when I was committed for a year. I was able to make some friends that were also MI. It makes a huge difference. I also go out every day to be around some people. Usually a coffee shop. Even a mall or store to walk around. Just to be around some people.
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I wish government would provide some meeting places for MI people to hang out at. There use to be a place like that by me. It was supervised and you had to register. But It costed too much money so they closed it.
Meeting people is a little different from having friends, I do not really have friends although I enjoy discussing my matters with one woman at my local psych clinic (done that over seven years), but people here locally do not even know that I have traveled in 35 different countries and lived in America, sometimes I just would like to have friends.
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lol that must have been rough paperwork. America is quite strict about travelers, I think. how many times did you have to get your documents certified?
Back in the 1990s things were different in America, Americans were not paranoid about terrorism and other things like that, it was easy to travel to many places, America was more free then, I never had to certify any documents … America has changed.
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I get bored, alone 99% of the time, only so much you can do to keep yourself happy and occupied.
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Even when I had a cruise to Bahamas in the summer of 1999, I went through the immigration with one Colombian teenage girl and she had an expired Green Card and the immigration officer just told her to renew her Green Card when she arrives at Miami, things were different then …
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I know right. nowadays, they would immediately send her back to Colombia. no questions asked.
but obviously after an awkwardly thorough and long frisk… : /
I love travelling but don’t know if I’d get the chance again now. I’d love to hear what countries you have been to and what your favourite is.
I am a mum of 2 children so alone time is something I wish for. I am lucky I have them, but sometimes I want personal space.
I crave solitude because I am so tense around people. However, if I take that to the extreme I can get in trouble. It seems like some of the periods where my disease was worst were right after a prolonged period of solitude. I have a pretty good ability to keep myself entertained when I am alone, though. Boredom isn’t too big of a problem for me.
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yeah, I don’t think I can truly live in isolation either. life would be quite hard without my brother. and happy cake day, dude.
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I spend the vast majority of my time all alone and I am never bored or lonely. I have a lot of interests to keep me busy and happily occupied by myself. I live in an assisted living facility in my own apartment, by myself, and the only time I leave my apartment is to go down to dinner or to attend mass once a week or Rosary group every day. Other than that, I’m in my apartment. I’m very happy here.
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I go charity jobs in mornings to get out around others and spend time away from my flat
Now at weekends I go out on bus or cinema
Sunday I go swimming
It’s all about going out and avoiding being stuck with the walls and thinking crap
I think this has nothing to do with you - most of my friends feel lonely.
I feel lonely too and the need to talk to people and socialize. Lonely feeling comes from the illness too.
I have many friends who feel lonely - so if you have any family, just spend more time with them.
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I know in my society many people, but I do not want to socialize with them, because many are drinking and so on, I rather spend my time alone, I do make one important call a day, at least, …
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I work so I talk to ppl I work with. I wouldn’t necessarily call them my friends tho. I talk to my wife and kids at night. I think my wife is my best friend. I wouldn’t be able to survive without my family
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Sometimes I regret that I have no children, but the life went in that way, so what, in my youth I should have married a different woman … marrying a right person is very important, once I calculated how much I lost when I married one American woman.
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that’s unfortunate dude. I wish you had a relationship like I do with my brother. that’s pretty much the only thing that’s keeping me from isolation. but I remember you posted a thread saying that your brother had abused you.
Yep, I know my brother so well and his today’s intentions without saying anything more …
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