Where are you my friends……
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Most of my close friends have been friends 20+ years. Newer relationships seem to come and go more often but it’s mutual. I don’t go around looking for friends in the first place. So when people leave me it is traumatizing because I have severe abandonment issues. I eventually move on but it’s depressing. Sometimes I don’t want to make new friends. It’s stressful.
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if u mean in real life i think if i wanted to and if they didnt mind i was quiet then probably could. i had frieneds 13 years ago, but i left, i didnt say bye or anything. just disappeared. i dont want any tho.
I can. One of my friends is in my life from 6th grade. So I would say I know her for … ~11-12 years? We still communicate and meet occasionally. Sadly we both changed a lot. We are still friends but sometimes it’s harder for us to communicate than it was before. Though, she was with me in a a darkest time (my psychosis)
Another good friend is in my life for 5 years. Not a lot, but still, quite a nice amount of time. She’s such a sweetie and very optimistic one!
I had a bf for 3 years (almost 3 years) so I believe I can maintain romantic relationships, too. Just maybe it comes harder for me than casual friendships.
Overall, I am communicative, I love meeting people and talking to them… just such a big amount of friends left me because I had psychosis. And I truly understand why, I was acting crazy.
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Very good quote @Truemist8 
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I have 3 long term friends I keep in touch with periodically. Ive known 2 of them for 22 years. The other one for 12 years.
I easily make friends but if anyone is unreliable im quick to can them.
Unreliable humans are a pet peave of mine. Its too bad because theres so many unreliable humans on this planet 
I actually reconnected with an old friend i did sports with in 2005-2008. I just messaged him like 15 years later on linkedin and said yo im getting back into snowboarding and asked if he wanted to meet up. He was stoked and now we both go snowboarding together often.
He was actually so stoked he said getting back into snowboarding in the terrain park is like therapy for him 
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The last friend I made was a total mistake, he trashed my apartment and died a few months later. I don’t know, I am very careful making friends since.
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I lost all my so called friends after going psychotic in 2012. None of them were good for me. I do still care for my exes probably to an inappropriate level ha. Anyway always liked girls more, was my focus growing up to find a girl not bro out
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My long term friendships are like my short term memory; non existent.
I periodically want to tell them to f#ck right off but so far I’ve managed to contain my lowest impulses. I have two friends, both long term. I think it’s important to set bottomlines you are willing to blow the whole friendship over and letting them know if something truly bothers you, it’s better than letting sh#t fester in the background.
I think what makes my friendships good is the fact that when we are both free we see each other quite often, when only one of us is free the other finds the time every now and then and when both of us are busy we can not see or hear from each other for months and pick up where we left off when something changes.
I am blessed with two good friends, everytime I want to tell them to f#ck right off I take a look at my life and go: “What the f#ck is wrong with you? You want to grow old not only single but friendless too because of some trivial sh#t you’ll forget about in a week?”
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I lost all my friendships.
My advice is don’t let paranoia ruin your friendships if you still have some. Try to save at least one or two by being honest and not acting on the paranoia.
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I get like that sometimes. Usually its an overblown reaction but im quick to think like your dead to me or whatever. Its a sort of black or white thinking response.
Its good to be aware of it. Lifes short gotta pick your battles.
I have one person I see very infrequently
We have known each other since we were 12 years old, so 24 years
Wish I could be a better friend
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I have some old friends that I still consider friends cause we did so much together but I rarely see them. I have a friend(midnight) that I met here in 2009 and we’re friends to this day. When I moved back to my home town he literally lived down the street. He still spends the night on occasion and I took him to day treatment last week. I have a few other friends that I’ve had for a couple years. I’ve known midknight for the longest as far as people I kick it with semi regularly. I’d say yes I can have long term friends. They don’t come often though.
I have two friends actually and weve all known eachother since we were 12 years old Im now 47 going to be 48 August 28th one friend is 1 year younger the other one year older than me anymore friends than just two would most likely overwhelm me
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all my oldest friends I have from college, some high school…I cut a few off from high school…i was wild in high school. I have been closest with Matt and Pam, who used to be engaged, but I was friends with Pam first so I stayed friends with her much to Matt’s initial chagrin…he’s fine with it now and asks about her still…Matt and I get together once a year around April. I’ve known him since 87. Pam since 86…then there’s Paul…he had a close call with alcoholism last year and is drink free now…known him since 83. graduated high school in 80.
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not really but also not by choice. i had irl friends when i was young but sz hit. i had online friends that all either ghosted me or were judgmental and unstable and i dont want to be brought down. i dont need friends and have probably spent more years in isolation than not but i am not sad about not having friends, after some of my experiences i am kind of relieved actually as when peoples true colors have been shown it makes me question whether they were ever a friend in the first place
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Ok so I don’t have friends to hang out with irl but I have a boyfriend and I tell ya once you find a fabulous hairdresser that improves one’s life or be it some other professional one can meet regularly who one feels good about to say the least.
Today I got myself a new hairdresser .
I’m so thankful for my amazing hairdresser.
OMG!
Best suprise ever.
My boyfriend made my appointment for me.
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