I like to think I am.
I can size a person up in about 5-10 seconds and decide whether or not I like them. And my intuition is usually bang on.
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not really but i have good threat assessment (like in every bad situation ive been in im the first to be aware when something fishy is going on).
when i was in psychosis my family have said i am like a terminator lol scanning everything visually
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maybe due to so much stuff happening but i feel like judging character takes a while considering most people dont reveal their true self on a first encounter
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It takes me longer than ten seconds. The more time I have with a person the better a baseline I can establish. I learned some years ago that I was missing important social cues so I spent a fortune learing to read micro expressions and body language. The problem with this is that you become very good at spotting deception and it is not a skill you can turn off. Everybody lies some of the time. The really bad people lie most of the time. The worst ones don’t give off tells of lying. Sociopaths. Takes me a while to spot those.
I’m also okay at threat detection, but I tend to err on the side of caution and overestimate threats because of my health issues. I’m only good for the first 15 seconds of a fight. After that I’m out of the fight.
When I was younger I had a period of fairly severe social anxiety. I’m pretty sure a lot people picked up on my nervousness and such as hiding something or lying, when it was really just being anxious.
Edit: I guess my point here is that I dont have a lot of faith in body language reading in everyone. Sometimes cues are not what they appear to be.
And no, I don’t think anyone can really accurately be judged in a few seconds. But a lot of people do judge based on first impressions.
Edit 2: good way to get out of jury duty though. Just tell the court “I can tell if someones guilty just by looking at them”.
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Yes. These days I am tending to spend time with people I like rather than those I tolerate. I’m soon to get rid of some friends I’ve known since high school but I’ve little patience these days. I really am becoming a crabby old man but I’m a good listener and get a handle on people pretty quickly. It changes over time though.
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I like to think I am. I mean, I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. But after surviving a rather toxic friendship with a pathological liar in my younger years I can typically tell when someone is BS’ing me pretty fast.
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My radar isn’t always on point.
I am pretty good however at detecting hate speech and gaslighting.
I’ve had ample time at my disposal to rehash the past and sadly I found out it’s been going on forever in my family. Often directed at me, but not always.
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Im the same as soon as I meet someone I can immediately know if Im going to like them or not.
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Only in perceiving threats. I know in 1 sec if my senses tell me to keep far away. in public I am always looking for people to avoid so I can immediately and obviously change my route so they can see if I feel like it. screw people. but judging their actual character fairly is impossible because I’m not professor xavier
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