Good advice @LilyoftheValley. Thanks.
I was thinking about relocating to a expat locale in Mexico. But the more I read about it and research it, the less sense it makes. Especially since I’m on a lot of meds.
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@SkinnyMe hey how are you?
I saw the photos of your apartment and looks lovely and you would miss your best friend if you moved, dont do anything rash hun seems like your in a good place right now
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@anon29983254, Hi how are you?
Don’t worry. I wouldn’t go anywhere without my best friend?, S.O?, partner?
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There should be enough space 
Aww i really struggled yesterday i was off my head totally. I think tiredness and stress but i feel better this morning im just waiting for gas man to come and fit a new part on my boiler. I get days where i struggle more than others.
Thanks
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I am on disability. If I lost my husband, I would have to move back to where I grew up. I got my degrees just to avoid that sort of thing. We have a lot of life insurance, but it’s term, and it’s about to expire. I don’t know what I would or could do. I have two of my kids living with me still. My rent is about $400 less than a 1 bedroom apartment in this area, so I couldn’t even afford to downsize. I do not believe that I can work steadily. I’m very scared about the life insurance situation. It sounds morbid, but I hope I go first. I can’t control my medication, spend frivolously when I get manic, and cannot work. Hubby is superior in all of these things. He could manage losing me and taking care of the kids.
But it all boils down to the poor care provided by the US for the disabled, impoverished, and elderly. Basically, if you are in need, expect limited to no help.
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America is also not welcoming to older people.
You’ll do well in America if you are straight, young, able bodied and affluent.
Blacks and minorities aren’t treated so well either.
I don’t know what it’s like in the UK but it can’t be worse than how things are rolling in the States
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The US is an incredible land of opportunity. If you are willing to work hard you can make a great life for yourself here. People from all over the world want to come here. Thousands enter illegally every day.
But if you are disabled you should probably stay put.
I am disabled but I have worked more years than I have not even with a disability and I haven’t had any trouble getting or maintaining my social security. I recently went off of SSDI and worked for several years got fired and went back on no questions asked. I didn’t need a lawyer, a judge or even see a doctor. My next review isn’t until 2029. And I am trying to go back to work again. Gluten for punishment I suppose.
But this isn’t about me it’s about you.
If you have disability benefits in your own country you should probably stay there.
I have been all over the world and love to travel and have the means to do so but I don’t like messing with my schedule so I don’t travel far from home. Anything more than one or two time zones can really mess with my well being and my medication regimen.
You have to respect your limitations.
What benefits do you receive in your country?
You don’t want to come to the USA without a job lined up and medical insurance. Medical isn’t free here and it’s expensive. Medication can be expensive depending on what you take. The government does have programs but I wouldn’t rely on that. You would want to rely on yourself.
Best of luck.
In a lot of different cultures, older people are revered and respected
Here in the States older people are lots of times mocked and ridiculed
They are the butt of jokes.
As I’m aging I’m feeling it.
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I think this is correct. Rather than acknowledged and respected for their experiences, the elderly are shoved in homes and mocked for telling stories. We could learn so much from people. I regret not learning more from my grandparents and great grandparents before they passed. My great grandfather was in WWII and served in Germany. My Granny went through the Great Depression, and her habits (only eating half of a meal to save the other half, saving bathwater) reflected how she grew up. I still have a living grandmother, but I mostly hear stories about her from my dad. They are bad, and she doesn’t want to talk about it. A lot of it reflects the disparities between men and women when she was growing up. The elderly fascinate me, and I think they are wonderful. But again… they are shoved in homes and mocked. It’s so terrible and so wrong. You don’t lose your value because you’ve reached a certain age.
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Yes this too @Happy_H
My Granny always visited shut-ins in the neighborhood, and she’d take me. We’d also go visit the elderly care home in town and sing with the church. I developed a particular interest in volunteering with the elderly. I have a great place right across the street, but I haven’t been back since Covid. I need to go. This thread is a good reminder.
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I’m getting pretty tired of seeing all these threads bashing the US.
It’s not a ■■■■■■■ great place right now but you guys need to check yourselves.
You could have been born in much worse places.
Not saying the things aren’t true.
Just saying have some ■■■■■■■ respect.
Other places aren’t the field of daisies some seem to think they are.
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That’s another reason not to leave home. Family. My great uncle is going to be 87 on Friday. I live right down the road from him.
His phone wasn’t working yesterday so I went to check on him. He doesn’t have a cell phone. I got his phone working and took him to lunch at his favorite restaurant. A Chinese buffet too far from home for him to drive to. He would get lost.
He has stage 2 dementia and his doctor told him he shouldn’t be driving. We took his keys for a while but he was miserable. We gave them back and let him drive to Walmart. He can go through neighborhoods to get there. He loves sweets. His dishwasher is full of candy and snacks. Had never washed a dish with it.
We are trying to keep him out of a home. I don’t currently work so I check on him more than anyone else in the family.
He is an Army veteran and spent time in Germany. Even got recalled for the Bay of Pigs.
He retired from the state as a cartographer. His house and car are paid for. He has plenty of disposable income and has a bad habit of watching QVC and ordering all kinds of expensive things he doesn’t need yet he is frugal.
My cousins all tell me to make him pay when we go out to eat but I don’t. I always pick up the tab.
Friday is his birthday and we are taking him to hibachi at the local Japanese place.
I respect my elders. Family is important and that’s another reason to stay at home. My great uncle is gay and never married so no spouse or children to look after him. His nieces and me the nephew are all he has got.
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If only people would build new housing on it. We also need to not only stop, but roll back foreign investment - give foreign investors say, five years, to divest their properties in Canada so that people living here can buy them.
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I mean people are being rightfully critical of the US. Obviously there are worse places, there are always worse places. But honestly it’s just a fact that if you aren’t a rich straight white cis male it is a hostile environment.
With all the legislation happening against the LGBTQ+ amongst other things America definitely seems to be moving away from equal rights.
The healthcare system is horrible and most people can’t afford it
You said it yourself nothing that’s being said is untrue.
Not talking about the failures of America does everyone in America a disservice.
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Say what you want.
You’re ungrateful though.
And your piss poor attitude doesn’t help.
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