Step grandchild(youngest stepdaughter’s eldest ) has asked if she can stay the night with her girlfriend on Friday. I of course said yes but have since gone into anxious/paranoid mode worrying over what the girlfriend will think of me. This fear/nervousness about strangers doesn’t get any better.
My place, me, in my mind they are all below par . In the end the stigma slowly worms it’s way into your life until it turns into a deep self stigma.
I get very uneasy around strangers, especially when they enter my space, but the paranoia is all in my head.
I am sure that all will turn out fine - I know how potent anxiety and paranoia can become, but there is actually nothing to worry about - its all a cruel illusion.
I know the feeling very well, hang in there @firemonkey - Everything will go well in the end
My granddaughter knows me. She knows I have difficulty keeping my place clean and tidy.
I guess knowing that and still asking to stay the night is the important thing. I am nervous about her friend but for all I know she could be nervous about me. I think basically it’s just somewhere to crash for the night.
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It Doesn’t Matter What People Think Of You ,
It Doesn’t Matter What You Think Of Yourself ,
What Matters (???)
Dont worry firemonkey!
Everything will be fine!
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Also Thus ,
Towards Thine End Of Such A Riddled Maze ,
You Will Fynde That What Matters To You ,
Is What I Personally Call A ,
$INGUlArITY PUrP0$e ,
Tha (((POSITIVE))) - Side .
Tha Bear Can SHow You Tha Negative Side ,
PERHAPS .
Altho I Just Megnatized Myself With Two Negatives ,
GOTTA GO !!! 
I haven’t got a clue what you’re on about sleepoptimistic but I hope you are keeping well.
Jus Trying To Be Helpful ,
AND YES I AM WELL ,
I Do Not Want To Hurt Myself Or Anyone Else .
AND IT WILL BE THAT WAY FOREVER .
you are a funny person, you seem kind also…they are kids who need a place to ’ crash ’ at.
i see it as a compliment 
take care 
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You might want to take a look at this one: http://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-change-your-attachment-style/00020379. I don’t think the “solution” is there (I don’t care for the writer’s suggestions very much), but the piece should raise your consciousness and (hopefully) peel off some of the shame. One seems to do best to observe to notice to recognize to acknowledge to accept to own one’s cognitive schemes. If one can do that much, beneficial changes will pretty reliably occur.