I visit my family every few months but when I’m here I keep to myself because I’m scared of being social with my parents. With my grandparents it’s also stressful but at least I can manage it. I don’t know how to go about being social with my parents. It feels weird and I don’t know what to say. And then I feel guilty for not talking with them. How can I solve this? I know usually to conquer your fears you need to face them, but how would I do that without making it awkward? I’ve always avoided them so that’s what I feel comfortable with.
Just try to not overthink or worry,it takes time to learn and relearn things you don’t do a lot.Give yourself sometime and not worry too much about not talking to them.Your parent probably understand and they would be glad if you at least know it would be great if you can talk to them,be patient and make some effort
Thank you, that’s a good reply. Will think about this and also make an effort to change…
What is it that you’re afraid of? Why do you avoid them? Your answers will likely give you a place to start.
I think I avoid them because I’m trying to avoid awkwardness. Awkward situations make me really stressed. And my parents also tend to argue a lot. But it’s mainly the awkwardness. I only started talking normally to them after I moved out so I don’t know how to go about things since we haven’t had such a relationship since I was a child.
Awkward is all about perception. It doesn’t have to be awkward. Though it’s easier said than done. But if you want to have a relationship you have to start somewhere. Even if it is awkward at first, it likely won’t be for long. Good luck.
Thanks for this and for the advice. You are right, it is all about perception. I think I will be working gradually on this so I don’t get too stressed.