Anyone else feel scared about how to actually find someone who will want you despite the schizophrenia?
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Yes, I thought Iād just hide it from people
The loneliness I had with sza was at times unbearable. I am older and single and I donāt think I could ever have a romantic relationship now. I do have some close friends now. I do find comfort in religion although I have to be very careful that it does not feed into my delusions.
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Yeah Iām afraid of that
Afraid might be the wrong word for me. came to the conclusion years ago no one would, Have no friends really, long weekend here no one asked what you up to or any invites, not that I would go anyway, but yeah its over as far as friends or lovers go.
Haha no, I want to be alone forever!
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Yes 
In the movie āEnceptionā they talked about becoming āan old man filled with regret, waiting to die aloneā. I sometimes think that will be my fate. Iāve been alone so long that I have gotten to where I donāt want to share my life with anyone. I live in my own little world, and I want to keep it that way. I have a hard time imagining myself in a committed relationship. I donāt like interference in my solitary life.
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Iāve been on āboth sidesā so to speak. After divorcing my abusive husband, I was a single mom living with my parents. I was so broken that I was sure no one would ever want me. After years of what I call āreconstructive therapyā, and thirteen years of no dating, I decided to try online dating.
I found the man Iām now married to. We dated for about six years before getting married and weāre coming up on our 3rd wedding anniversary in Oct.
I have to be honest, itās harder, IMO, to be in a relationship than it was to be alone. My husbandās a wonderful person and I know Iām lucky to have found him. But, being with someone has added stress and pressure to my life that wasnāt there before. Areas of paranoia that were dormant are full-force now, and sometimes I make his life miserable, which I feel terrible aboutā¦and then resentful.
Anyway, try to enjoy and appreciate what you have. Being āaloneā really isnāt the worst thing. And if you really want to be with someone, I recommend online dating. But understand that no one has the key to your happiness but you. 
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I used to be very frightened of being alone. But the thing is no one ever really is alone. Thereās always someone in the universe thinking about you.
And I kind of have to ride off what Hedgehog wrote, relationships can add a ton of stress. Work on yourself first, and if anyone finds you interesting that will follow with time.
Take up a hobby, even if itās something like drawing simple things, like little funny cartoons. If you can, go to school, exercise, or volunteer. All these things have helped me out tremendously. And I hope they all help you out.
Take care 
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Go spend a lot of time with people in relationships who also believe that they Have to be in a relationship to be happy and look at how well thatās working for them.
I have alogia so I canāt talkš¤, if I met the right girl I wouldnāt be able to connect with her.
If I met someone who wanted to be friends it would be a one sided conversation. No alliance.
Right now I just keep to myself do my little exercise take my classes and go to appointments, thats it.
Hopefully Iāll be able to start making conversation at some point in the future with a med change or something otherwise I canāt connect with people.
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Iām not afraid of being alone forever but it does make me sad when I think about it. I donāt see my lack of dating life changing anytime soon.
yeah because i know nobody will want me
people always say youāll find somebody but that has never been true
I have alogia as well, then I canāt connect with people thoroughly.
I hope in the future there will be a med that change this. In the moment, Iāll try cognitive training in the hope of getting better with my alogia.
I think that there is a big chance that I will end up alone. Crazy thing is that the meds make me not care about it so much. My urge to be with women has largely went away.
It crosses my mind all the time. But I kinda came to grips with it. If Iām alone thatās okay. That means the right one is not on this plane or dimension.
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