How do you deal? Any tips?
Can you clarify what you mean?
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I become attached to people. When they travel, I become very anxious. My husband used to come home and visit during work because I was a mess while he was gone. Now, we talk every few hours on the phone. I have a very difficult time being away from my children, my parents, my sister’s family, my pastor, my best friend, and my counselor. I become very afraid. I become irrational in my thinking. I lose reason. I “cry out for help”, and it worries people.
I feel same when my family go out of home, I calm down myself with praying for them,
“God is the best protector and kindest of the kind”
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AMEN! Thank you!
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@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, is it a fear of abandonment?
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Does that mean I’m afraid I will be left alone forever?
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I think it means you should try to learn to feel more comfortable with yourself.
I think alot of people get anxiety when they are away from the people they love.
It’s just a normal reaction, think of cats and dogs when you come home they are so happy because they don’t know where you went or when you are coming back.
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Okay. Thank you @nfy
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Yes. That’s a huge part of fear of abandonment
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Do you know how I address fear of abandonment? Do you have any practical tips?
I’ll ask my best friend. She has fear of abandonment due to BPD and she went through a one year class that helped her tremendously. I’ll get back to you on it.
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I have abandonment issues as well.
I’m getting a bit better though.
I know how you feel @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter.
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@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter @Wave Here is an article about it. My friend is coming over and I’ll ask her for more tips that she learned in her class. Hopefully she remembers them.
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Very helpful!
Thanks @LilyoftheValley!
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@Wave @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter. My friend says it’s a whole year once per week Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) program. She suggests looking for one in your area. It takes a long time to overcome it but with work it can be done.
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Yeah I miss my mom when I’m not in CA. I text her to keep in touch.
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Yeah I don’t have borderline but maybe DBT could help me.
Thanks @LilyoftheValley! 
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You are so kind, thoughtful, considerate, and generous to take the time and effort to respond, and research, and talk to your friend!! I feel less alone because you care!! THANK YOU!
That article is a GREAT read!! Thank you!! I can look into a DBT workbook. I don’t have time to take a course.
@Wave and @agent101g
I’m sooo sorry you struggle, too!! It’s VERY hard!
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Thanks @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, that’s an excellent idea!
Maybe I’ll get a DBT workbook also!
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