I gave up trying to make friends or get closer to the ones I have. I have no idea how to do it clearly and I’m tired of it upsetting me. I deleted all social media permanently after downloading all my pictures and videos. I don’t feel connected to anyone right now
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You’re too young to stop trying. The social impulses will prevail.
I have social discomfort, like big time. Yet I still push myself to interact with people because the alternative is simply too bleak.
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Try again later…you will find the right people eventually?
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I dunno. I don’t feel like I’m very likeable and I’m at the point where I don’t enjoy others company most of the time either. I feel better in some areas and worse in others no matter what I do. But socializing became too much this year
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Retreat my arse. Now you’re attacking from a different direction.
Don’t quit five minutes before the miracle.
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@Moon I never thought I’d make any close friends in my state because most of my friends live in other states and I met them when I was in the military. But last year I made a couple good friends in my building. They’re both sz too so we vibe well.
Don’t lose hope. 
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I’m just miserable and isolated. It feels like I’m way too far into the trauma hole built up for 32 years. I don’t even wanna be around
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I am at a similar place
It has its benefits but it is a difficult thing to do these days
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You’re smarter than me. I’ve deleted Facebook in the past without saving the photos.
I’m in a social mood these days. I’ve met with 4 friends in the last week.
I think you have to be in the right mood to connect with people. Maybe you should focus on feeling better and healing from trauma and then the feeling to connect will surely come again.
It’s winter after all and spring is just around the corner.
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I don’t usually feel connected to anyone either and I’m also isolated and don’t have friends as such.
So I’m not the only one …… 
Best wishes for us .
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I basically have going out friends. Yes, I can talk to them a little about deeper things when I see them. I can be myself and they know what’s going on in my life. They’re not just casual friends. However, we’re not bosom buddies and together all the time.
After going out of my way to meet friends for about a year and a half, I spend time on the ones that I consider good friends or are becoming good friends. They’re going out friends, I think, because I met them through social groups, and I only have so much time to socialize past my relationship with my husband (we like spending time together alone) and raising children and spending time with them and working. Those are my priorities.
I do social groups because I can be around people again and again and again for a long period of time and don’t have to do this quick friendship thing like what seems to happen around me in everyday day life. This might be the part where I have some social awkwardness because of my illness.
I think a lot of people think you either have casual friends or close friends. I think there’s a level in between where you can share some personal information and spend plenty of time with them over a period of years, so they’re past just casual friends. However, they’re not close friends - or the next level - best friends by any means. For instance, I can do a trip with them once in a great while - when I find time, lol.
I don’t know if anything I said helps you. I hope you’re feeling better soon @Moon.
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Just don’t give up. Depending on what areas your talking about there might be people out there that can understand or even help you in those areas… good friends are pretty awesome when you can find them …
I’m the same way but I guess giving up would be giving up on hope…
Similar to how ive been feeling about friends and socialising. One thing ive learned is that with romantic partners, the person is the focus and getting closer and closer is the goal. But with friends the focus is your mutual interest in something else. Wether its drinking, gaming, a sport, a religion or a political thing etc etc. I picture it in my mind like partners face eachother, whereas friends are side by side facing something else.
I dunno if that makes any sense but it does to me haha.
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