This a poll about whether you have or want children.
Do you have or want to have children?
- I have a child or children
- I donāt have a child or children but want them
- I donāt have a child or children and donāt want them
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I didnāt vote because I sometimes regret not having children but Iām not sure I would want them either. I am getting a little old for kids now. I donāt have children.
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I would love to adopt a daughter
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I have a step son and a child on the wayā¦ so wasnāt sure what I should put lol.
Donāt know if Iāll want more children after this oneā¦ even though I said I wanted to have a total of 4š
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well i have 7 nieces and nephews the thing is im over the little kids thing, i just want it to end, i like kids as they grow and become more mature, but each generation has kids and itās a never ending cycle of poopy diapers. soon my nieces and nephews will have kids and iāll be lucky not to offend them by not wanting to play with their kids. i feel obligated to play with my family kids but it is incredibly difficult for me to keep up the energy or try to be a kid again, which i donāt enjoy.
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I had a baby and gave him to gay guys and thereās not an option for that.
Also, there are a lot of mothers that have children and regret it.
Itās a very real and common situation.
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You make good points @GoldenRex .
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I used to think it would have been nice if I had a kid to look after me in old age, but with my Sz I donāt think I could have managed it.
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ehh children have never really been my thing, im also the oldest of 7 siblings and had to babysit ALOT and I hated it and now with my illness I have a good excuse for not having any when people ask 
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My wife (ex wife now) and I were trying to have kids when we were married.
Thank goodness we didnāt have kids.
She was a horrible person.
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i really want a child, or even two, a boy and a girl
but i have to be realistic
it would not suit me
i worry about everything and want everything to be perfect
what are the chances of that happening ??? (perfection), when I worry as much as i do and have a low stress tolerance and so fearful of so many things
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I am really happy with the relationships I have with my nieces and nephew so no real need to have kids. Sure my mom would love more grandkids but being sexually traumatized as a ten year old can screw with your mind about wanting to get close to people. Most of my family understands my position and they accept it.
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I never wanted a family when I was growing up. I never wanted to get married. That wasnāt my dream. But after I got pregnant and lost a baby to a tubal pregnancy I changed my mind, I guess it was hormones or something that kicked in. A few years later, when I was 30 I had my daughter. and 2 1/2 years later my son.
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Never been a kid person. Never wanted one, never saw myself with one. And I mean no offense to the people with kids, but I donāt enjoy being around them. I donāt like that everything has to be ākid friendly.ā
I am not, and have never been, able to have a kid. And while I wish Iād had a choice, because that would feel better to me, at least if not being able to have a kid landed on someone, better it be someone who doesnāt want them.
Wow. Donāt I sound evil.
Iām really good to and good with and full of love for animals and all of my adult friends, though!
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Iād be a good mom, but I want to be less and less. Iād rather just be alone, and not have someone to look after. I donāt want to have worries when I die.
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It is Hard to say, but I regret having a child
Not my son as a person because he is a wonderful human being and I love him. But Iām too sick to be a Mother, and that is the opinion of both me, my exhusband and my son. Therefore my son lives with his dad and visits me every third weekend, and twice a year I visit him and his dad.
My illness began with postpartum psychosis/,depression so I didnāt know I was ill. But if I had known what would have happened over the last 11-12 years, I wouldnāt have had a child.
Of course my son doesnāt know that, but he realizes that Iām not like his friends Mothers
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I longed for a child and had a son before I was diagnosed sza. If I had known I would come down with sza and what it would all entail and that it was genetic, I would probably never have gotten pregnant.
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Schizophrenia screwed up my life. I had to drop out of University so I never got my degree and found a good job so I donāt have enough money and few women are interested in marrying someone with schizophrenia anyways, otherwise I wouldāve had children a long time ago.
The reality is I very seriously doubt I will have ever children.
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Having a child would have been a mistake. I donāt feel capable of raising a child and that he can thrive
I am too worried in general.
And then that would be too difficult in terms of fatigue, anxiety etc.
There is also a ādetailā, I live alone!
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I said no, and I donāt want any, simply meaning I donāt want to start a family now. But if I met someone who had kids, that would be great because I do love children
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