Wow, that is very expensive. I don’t think mine was that high. But then again I’m in Iowa not California. Cost of everything is higher there. Plus it was probably over 20 years ago.
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in 20 years the cost of tickets has sky rocketed
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I use to ride a motorcycle without a license too back then occasionally. I was lucky I never got caught for that…
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ooooh, you’re a bad boy.
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lol. Long time ago.
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Now look at you, you’re an upright pillar of the community.
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I have just thought about something along similar lines myself. I guess the trick is to pick up on who gives back and who doesen’t. I mean if someone is not nice when you are trying to be consistantly then give them back what they ordered. But try to keep a natural way about it. Don’t start acting. But I guess if someone is not polite, then you don’t owe them anything. Save the altruism for people who appreciate it.
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sorry that people screw you over @Leaf
but i think you should keep being the nice person that you are… don’t let them change you because they behave like that.
ah and on later posts: i’m glad your printer works again.
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I use to give and give and they would take and take.
I stopped giving so much, and when I do give and get nothing in return I let them know about it.
I don’t expect things in return, but if I happen to do someone a favour, and sometime later I need a favour from them I’ll remind them that I helped them. If they still don’t help me for no good reason I cut them off.
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You should really have that figured out before you give anyone anything at all. Unless we’re talking charity.
If you keep giving and not getting anything back, that’s on you.
I disagree. And I’m not talking about resources. I’m talking about gestures. If you don’t dare to take the initiative to give something to someone who you don’t know then you will not be able to tell the difference. I mean if the other person thinks the same thing, that they expect the other one to act first then there will be a stalemate. That would prove to become a immense cold society.
That is obviously a bit different. Though I don’t see why you would be upset about the other person if they’re not as interested in the friendship as you are and then write them off as not being kind.
We all have to experience in life that we’re not everyone’s cup of tea. That doesn’t mean you’re giving and giving and not getting back. It just means the other person isn’t as invested as you are. And that’s fine. If they’re abusing your friendship in some way, then it’s still on you to figure that out before it hurts you, just like with money or other resources.
The “I’m too kind” phrase is just a lie we tell ourselves to feel better about being rejected or easily fooled.
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For me it’s not a problem with close friends. I’m thinking more about casual aquaintances. Like the clerk at the store, and the casual person you meet. Like what is the point of saying “Thank you” If they consistently never say “you’r welcome” back. Stuff like that. I’m tired of being the nice guy in the face of unapreciation.
Well stop then. I’m all for common decency but this is pretty silly stuff you’re getting wound up about. And honestly, you’re not that nice if you get angry when others don’t repay you niceness.
This is a support forum, and you are not being supportive. I don’t mind that you disagree for whatever reason, but why bother commenting at all if you don’t have anything constructive to say?
That’s like someone telling you that they are depressed and then you say, well why don’t you go ahead and kill yourself?
There is nothing wrong with having emotions, and getting upset about things. We are all very different people. Some get upset about one thing, somebody else about something else. I don’t appreciate you mocking the struggles I have.
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Jesus @Mr_Hope. I wouldn’t ask a depressed person to kill themselves.
I said what I think because that’s what I think. If you feel you’re constantly being taken advantage of, then it’s on you. You need to get some healthy boundaries, to become less trusting, to choose your friends and change your interactions. Support doesn’t mean always excusing people’s personal responsibility to make healthy changes in their lives. Sometimes it actually is on you to change, not others. And the problem definitely isn’t that any single person in this world is being “too” kind.
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Where do you take this stuff from?
First of all to your previous post I never said I was angry about anything. I said I was TIRED of something. Then you make it out to seem I got some anger issue although I have never mentioned anger in this thread. Maybe “anger” and being “tired” of something is synonyms in your life, but they aren’t in mine.
I never said I get constantly taken advantage of. Once again you are putting words in my mouth. And anger is the last way I would deal with something. I am changing something. That was the whole point with posting here, that this is a conclusion I recently have come to and I plan to do something about it. I was writing in response to the original post. I will change my behaviour.
Every time you respond to my posts you make it out to be some kind of duel, or you need to have the last word or something. You have some issues to sort out yourself. I don’t understand why you bother responding if you are going to take a aggressive stance and make thing out that aren’t so.
I never said I was angry.
I never said I was constantly being taken advantage of.
What’s next?