I bought a gold plated bracelet that cost $50 for a young real life girl named Parisa as pictured below.
The translation is Parisa’s name in Chinese. 琶日洒 = pa-ri-sa
However, she rejected the gift. I am doing something wrong because this is the 2nd girl I bought a gift for and she rejected me.
Any questions or advice will be appreciated.
Are you getting to know these women well before giving them gifts? I think that buying women gifts that you do not know well is likely to get you a lot of rejection and make these women feel awkward.
Maybe instead of trying to buy these woman gifts, try to get to know them on a personal level? Seems to me that giving gifts is something that you can do after a relationship has already been established. I am no expert in this area though.
Either,
She doesn’t like it.
She doesn’t like you or even know you.
She doesn’t want to feel indebted to you.
Or, a combination of the above scenarios.
I dont know if you are dating her or not but, i think jewelery is kind of a personal thing. To wear jewelery someone gave you every day is rather intimate. Its kind of a sentimental reminder piece.
I think its usually given by someone who is very close to a women like their mother, best friend, a serious long term bf, fiance etc. She also may think that it was verh expensive and thus not want to accept such an extravegant gift.
Yes, Parisa is Iranian. She has immigrated to the city I live in only for a couple of years. She’s very much into fashion. Perhaps I have to get to know her much better that what I know now.
Could you explain what is meant by “a more personal level”?
Good point. I never thought of it that way. Perhaps I should have considered this piece advice at first.
It’s $50. I could buy almost a full tank of gasoline for my car with that money.
Diamonds are forever. Maybe shes just not ready for that. Im sure shed be willing to accept flowers, chocolates, a gift basket etc as more of a casual gift. Even giving her a bracelet or something would be better. A necklace is one step away from a ring.
Whoa, you are an expert here. I don’t understand women. It’s too much heartache like the first girl I bought a gift for. The next girl I will take it a step down such as flowers as you’ve suggested.
I’m not a jewelry person myself. But it is quite lovely. I’m sorry she rejected it, but maybe she doesn’t consider her relationship with you serious enough. I wouldn’t want a guy who is in a guy friend category to buy me jewelry. But it is quite lovely. Maybe slow down your relationship with her.
I just meant basically the same thing as @POET said. You probably are better off being fairly close with these women before offering them gifts. Talking to them frequently and getting to know them is likely to get you farther than simply offering gifts.
Quite possibly. I guess I might as well be friend-zoned and not be considered boyfriend material. I don’ know.
Are you dating her, or group dating? Get together in the same social circle with other friends? There is a difference.
Ugh… close to women? I don’t know if I can do that. Yeah, I kinda learned by trial and error it’s best to keep daily conversation with a woman you are interested in. Perhaps it’s a cultural thing genetically engrained in me in terms of buying expensive gifts.
As you may well know. I am schizophrenic which means I don’t have friends to go out as a group.
Yes, so your relationship isn’t deep enough to her accepting presents from you. I’m not saying it can’t happen. Maybe better to just keep communicating with her, unless she asks you not to. Then don’t.
Hey dude dont take it too personally. I know it hurts for someone to refuse a gift but, dont let that get you down. Its just a timing thing. Who knows. A year or two down the line this same women may be saying yes to an engagement ring from you so, take it in stride. She didnt neccesarily say “no”, just “not yet”. Maybe you should keep it. If you guys end up getting closer maybe shell accept it when she feels more comfortable. Best of luck broski
I have already stopped talking to her. It felt so horrible to get rejected the 2nd time and I prefer to cease the relationship since I will be reminded by that pain again.
That’s true, there may be a difference culturally that I am not getting here. It may be that I do not know enough about Iranian culture to offer you advice here. As far as it being “engrained in you genetically”, I don’t believe that.
Much appreciated. I do take rejection personally. It’s like a stab at the heart. Who knows what the future will bring. Yeah, I assume my timing was wrong with this woman.
